interpersonal.dev

Your career ceiling isn't technical — it's interpersonal. Free 14-day communication system for systems-minded professionals.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

30 years in tech. CISSP. Senior sales engineer.

I can demo any product to a room of 500 people.

Put me at a networking dinner with no agenda? I freeze.

That gap cost me more than any technical skill I never learned. So I built something about it.

https://t.co/zZqj1ZLEjQ

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Swap “over-engineered” for:

“My intent is to keep this maintainable.
Here’s the concrete cost I’m seeing: ___
What constraint were you optimizing for?”

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

When your technical feedback triggers defensiveness,
it’s rarely the *content*.

It’s the missing intent.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Swap “over-engineered” for:

“My intent is to keep this maintainable.
Here’s the concrete cost I’m seeing: ___
What constraint were you optimizing for?”

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

When your technical feedback triggers defensiveness,
it’s rarely the *content*.

It’s the missing intent.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Swap “over-engineered” for:

“My intent is to keep this maintainable.
Here’s the concrete cost I’m seeing: ___
What constraint were you optimizing for?”

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Swap “over-engineered” for:

“My intent is to keep this maintainable.
Here’s the concrete cost I’m seeing: ___
What constraint were you optimizing for?”

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

When your technical feedback triggers defensiveness,
it’s rarely the *content*.

It’s the missing intent.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Rule: don’t answer hostility with content.

Hostility is an intent + tone problem, not a technical disagreement.

Responding with better code evidence doesn’t address the actual issue.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Hostile code reviews don’t just hurt feelings.

They change what gets built.

People stop taking risks.

[interpersonal.dev @interpersonable]

Here's what changed everything for me in hard conversations.

Stop setting outcome goals. Set process goals.

Not "get them to agree." That's out of your control.

Try: "Ask two clarifying questions before responding."

You can't control results. You can control your inputs.

[Science girl @sciencegirl]

Focus on the black cross and the red dots will appear to follow waves even though they move straight.

[Crazy Moments @Crazymoments01]

Ain't no way, well deserved

[Le Contemplateur @LeContempIateur]

Quand tu es sur le bon chemin, tout s’aligne parfaitement ! 💯👌✨

[Earth @earthcurated]

"One day you will wake up and there won't be any more time to do the things you've always wanted. Do it now."

[Learn Something @cooltechtipz]

The son will carry this with him for the rest of his life.