Going numb on someone feels so good. When you’re numb to them you just don’t care. If they’re in your life, cool. If they’re not, also cool. But there’s NO desire nor hate for them at all. Truly at peace with it.
Normalize creating distance when you know someone's been speaking negatively about you. You don't have to keep showing up with a smile just to "keep the peace" while someone is comfortable disrespecting you behind closed doors. If someone chose to speak on you, let them stand on it. You're not obligated to be extra cordial to people who haven't been genuine with you.