‘Arranged marriage’ is largely dead in the urban upper middle class strata.
Kids grew on movies and TV, want to find love, for whatever reason — dont.
Then parents set them up. Kids forcefully superimpose a romancemax hollywood love-style relationship frame on what is otherwise a contractual relationship that hopefully blossoms into love.
Proposals, rings, baby/shona from day 1. None of this is felt, its performed.
Reality sets in 6-12 months later. Wife will not play 80-90s style bahu who runs around saying ‘mummy ji ko bura na lage’. Modern bahus care 2 shits about saas. Men quickly fall out of fascination with their ‘new toy’- the honeymoon, the wedding, the photos, the sex fades.
Family expects joint family behavior, couple has nuclear family ethics. Family set up an arrangement, kids performed a different performance.
Resentment builds slowly. Man gets dragged between parents and wife. Wife feels antagonised by in laws. Parents feel mistreated and isolated in old age.
It could have been simple if they picked one lane and lived it out. But marriage has become too complicated in modernity— too many concepts, references, moviepilled ideas, reelpilled fantasies, nostalgia coded platitudes compressed into one private relationship space, commented on and critiqued by everyone.
If youre getting arranged married, dont force love into it. Let it arrive. It may not, and thats your gamble. But people who get married out of love may end up being wrong, or fall out of love. Thats their gamble.
Live by the spirit of your decisions. Not by the aesthetics of someone else’s decision.
@SidhaantNangia Imo.. you get enough hands on for procedures in md/medical clg.. whereas in dnb you get good clinical exposure and reqd infrastructure but lack hands on
@DrDhruvchauhan RG kar is one of the most premier institutes in Kolkata. What happened was really unfortunate that shook everyone to the core. But this cannot and should not render the 100 long years of its glorious history as redundant.
#MedTwitter
(from an alumnus)
@PanditSaibpal A congress cm supporting RG's statement is a BIG BREAKING for this person 😂😂
Actually it sums up what the current status of the Congress party is.
@YasmeenKhan_YK@RahulGandhi Work started in 2015 and completed in 2024.. both in Modi regime. Inauguration doesn't guarantee completion of projects. UPA govt was a champion in envisioning projects and a complete failure in accomplishing those.
CJI Chandrachud:
"Independence of Judiciary doesn't mean constantly deciding against Govt. It also means Independence from "PRESSURE GROUPS", & "INTEREST GROUPS."
~ If you decide on ELECTORAL BONDS, you are very Independent but if verdict favours the Govt, you're not?"🔥👌
@ravi86196 @smileagainraja So according to you countries that are not potential threats to other nations and those which try to have friendly relations with other nations are "weak"!
"Hum kisi ko chedte nhi..
par chedne se chodhte bhi nhi"