A lot of women don’t like this because they have to admit they’re not as progressive as they think lol. They don’t want to unpack that. They want u to perform that role as if it’s second nature as opposed to it being patriarchal asf.
Ask him what he means by “the man in the relationship”, and you will hear the most regressive gender stereotypes that match your grandfather’s 1950s mindset.
Most genderist queers think like this..
Researchers once gave 180 kids a mind-numbing computer task and put an iPad loaded with games right next to them. Six-year-olds working as themselves stayed on task about 35% of the time. Six-year-olds dressed as Batman hit 55%.
Psychologists call it the Batman Effect, and it explains exactly why this little stylist looks so locked in.
A kid in character gains access to self-control they don't have as themselves. Lev Vygotsky noticed this a century ago, and his students ran experiments on it in the Soviet Union. In a famous 1948 study, preschoolers asked to stand still gave up almost immediately. Preschoolers told they were sentries guarding a post held the pose far longer. Same kids, same boring job. The role carried them.
The reason is that a role comes with rules. "Stand still" is an order from an adult. "A guard stands still" is the whole point of the game, so breaking it kills the game. Kids will fight to keep a game alive in a way they will never fight to obey an instruction.
Which is why she's working the scalp and steering her screaming client through the full rinse cycle. A stylist finishes the appointment. So she finishes the appointment.
Vygotsky's line about this is the one worth remembering. In play, a child behaves a head taller than themselves.
The customer is playing too, by the way. She hates every second of that rinse and she's still holding position over the sink. Staying in the chair is her role, and she is honoring it.