There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
silently crying in the back of my uber and the driver turned around and gave me this stick of gum before saying in broken english “u will be okay tomorrow, today u can be sad”
Someone commented on Ayra Starr's tiktok: "The braids era is back" and she replied with: "It's not everytime era, someone can't do braids in peace?" 😭😭😭😭😭
Perhaps this year isn't about becoming anything at all. Maybe instead, it's about slowly unbecoming all the things which no longer align with you, and finding peace in the quiet return to your authentic self.
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.
even if you have been disappointed before, let yourself want things again. your hope is not embarrassing. your desire is not naive. your heart is allowed to stay open after being tested.
Stop glorifying urgency. Not every dream needs to be chased in panic. Some of what is meant for you will require patience, rhythm, and a nervous system that finally feels safe enough to receive it.
As a woman over 20, you have to commit to a minimum of 5 beauty standards you refuse to care about for your own peace of mind. What is a hip dip? Strawberry legs? Stretch marks? Buccal fat? Please go to hell, man.