My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
the intimacy of sleeping together, but not in a s*xual way. the intimacy of feeling the warmth of their body in a cool room hugging you tightly. the intimacy of synchronized breathing. sleepy half-kisses. feeling safe. feeling warm. waking up and realizing how much you love them.
The day Ferrari stops acting like Italy’s national team and starts being a real racing team, one that values talent over nationality, sets aside pride and ego and actually listens to its drivers is the day they’ll start winning consistently.