women get called "bitches" "whores" "pocket pussy" "dishwasher" for even just giving callouts in game and we still play, men get told to swap and they dc, throw, or start being misogynistic and racist. trust me, women are NOT the sensitive ones.
I think non gamers underestimate how many people use gaming as their way to decompress after work, stress, burnout or just life.
For a lot of adults:
gaming IS self care.