i loved you without keeping score. I showed up for you on days when you had nothing to give back. I listened to your silence as much as your words, and I stayed present even when things got difficult between us. My care for you was never tied to what I could receive in return.
I wasn’t perfect, but my intentions were always clean. I wanted to be the person you could lean on without fear of judgment. I believed in your growth and your healing, even when you struggled to believe in yourself. I gave you the kind of love that doesn’t demand anything back only that you felt safe and seen.
One day, you’ll look back and understand how rare it is to have someone who loves you like that. When others start showing you love that comes with conditions or convenience, you’ll remember how I loved you even when it wasn’t easy. And you’ll realize that what you lost wasn’t just me it was someone who genuinely wanted nothing but the best for you.
Avoidants want a partner - but without being a partner. Avoidants want their needs met - without any pressure or expectations to meet your needs. And avoidants want a peace-full & drama-free relationship - without having to do any conflict-resolution or communication about problems so that they dont escalate. In other words: Avoidants - exactly like narcissists want all the benefits of you - without any expectations to provide the same in return.
A man is going to be who he is, no matter what you bring to him. You can be beautiful, solid, have your own, carry yourself right and still end up dealing with somebody who just not built to handle you. You can’t love a man into acting right or upgrade his mindset by being a better woman.
After a certain age, being a bad partner is just embarrassing. Sooo you didn’t do any work on yourself? No introspection, no healing, no growth… just basking in your toxicity huh? Like Age should come with wisdom, and that includes being a good partner. Refusing to grow is like skipping your emotional homework and wondering why you keep flunking the relationship tests. Time to hit the books on self-improvement and grow tf up.
This person told me , “Once you cut people out of your life, you need to become very comfortable with them talking bad and making things up about you. Because they will fill your silence and your absence with stories that make them feel better about losing access to you. People rarely take accountability when it’s easier to paint you as the villain.” Factssss
One of life's hardest lessons is realizing that effort doesn't always create reciprocity. You can give your best and still be unappreciated. That isn't a reflection of your value, only of their ability to recognize it. 🤍
I think the reason you can’t hate yourself into changing your life is because change is the most self-loving thing you can ask of yourself. You are quite literally demanding better for/from yourself, in what world do you think self-loathing and self-punishment can sustain that?