This girl on TikTok said "If God puts me in your life it's to love & heal you because God knows that's all I know how to do with good intentions & never half love you."
I felt that wholeheartedly ❤️🥹
Emotionally unavailable men will ruin you.
And I'm not saying that lightly. I'm saying it from a place of watching too many women with big hearts and soft souls break themselves trying to love men who simply can't love them back.
Stay away from men who think emotional connection is optional, who call you "too sensitive.
who make you feel like you're asking for too much simply because you want love that feels present intentional, and real. Because the truth is, no matter how loving, loyal, or patient you are you cannot pour into a man who's emotionally empty. it's about him. His fears.
His refusal to do the inner work.
You deserve someone who's available
Your softness, your empathy, they deserve a home in a man who's ready to receive, nurture and retur them. Don't waste your heart on a man who's numla to love.
Save your heart for someone who doesn't just want it but knows how to hold it.
I don’t have the "running around the room" kind of ADHD.
I have the "sitting completely still, staring at a wall, while my brain plays 3 songs, plans a hypothetical argument for next Tuesday, and silently screams because my sock feels wrong" kind of ADHD.
The chaos is strictly internal.
“But you survived”
I disassociate, like a lot.
My heart drops when someone raises their voice.
I shut down very easily.
I'm far too observant.
I always feel like a burden.
I isolate often.
But yeah, sure, I guess I survived.
A woman on TikTok shared that her husband of 13 years cheated on her, left her with two kids, and when he finally explained himself it came out that he was tired of her endometriosis. Tired of her canceling plans. Tired of the lack of s3x because it caused her pain. Tired of her needing help in the kitchen sometimes. Even complained that her gynecologist appointments were too expensive.
And honestly, my biggest fear has never been ending up single forever. My biggest fear is marrying a man who will abandon me the moment my body needs grace and replace me with another person just because he can. A man who will trade loyalty for lust. A man who will justify betrayal because patience became inconvenient.
That kind of love terrifies me way more than being alone ever could.
I spent years overgiving in friendships & relationships. I was always the one checking in, showing love, making sure everybody was good & I forgot about me. Now I just want to be alone and focus on myself. I’m learning to pour into me the way I used to pour into everybody else. 🎀
The ability to have parents you can return home to, for the holidays, during any personal setback, or when you need to restart life, is truly a blessing. I’m grateful to always have the option to “come home.” Home will always be the softest place for me to land.
The thing is Mariah the Scientist is like watching your homegirl get cheated on and lied to publicly and trying to muster up the congrats when you don’t like her “man” because she deserves better. But SHE has to feel she deserves better. Thats why I said as long as she’s happy…because I got nothing else.
Forever a lover girl. I will never change who I am for anyone. I will still love the next man better, and still give intentionally. There are definitely good men out there and I will have the best of them.
I will marry.
I will marry well.
I will marry a blessed partner, full of wisdom, understanding, and the love of God in Christ
My partner will never disgrace me
I will never disgrace my partner
Divorce will never be our portion
We will honor each other in all our ways
We will walk in unity, purity, peace, and purpose
We will have wealth in abundance
Our home will be a dwelling place of grace
Our children will glorify Jesus all the days of their lives
None of them will bring disgrace to us
None will struggle with identity crisis
If this is your prayer, type “AMEN” 🙏🔥