For me, loving the people in my life, holding onto them, and fighting to keep them doesn't come from attachment; it comes from my capacity to love. In the same way that I can give endless love, Iโm also capable of walking away in a heartbeat.
Loving urself doesn't mean being selfish. Selfishness is ugly, but what's even worse is turning from a kind person full of love into someone selfish just because u're trying to be self-sufficient.