Watching Kenyans shocked at the extremes of hypersexuality in the same country full of patriarchy, conservative parenting, little sex education and abuse of children.
Another form of low self esteem is definitely being too available to people who have shown you countless times that they lack a sense of urgency and enthusiasm towards you. I know its hard but regulate your nervous system to calm down.
Also, we need to stop saying South Africans are xenophobic. They not. South Africans are afrophobic because they have no issues with white and Asian migrants.
In 2019, a Nigerian man called Gerald “Sunny” Okafor died in a Japanese detention center after a 4-week hunger strike. Detained for immigration issues, he begged to be sent home, but the Japanese authorities refused.
The Japanese are extremely hostile to Africans.