For any women that need to hear this, there are loving men out there. There are men who will sit and listen to you while you talk about something that bothered you. There are men out there that will take accountability and apologize. Who can be aware of their behavior and how it affected you. Men that you can grow with. Men that will make you feel appreciated. You don't have to go through years of trauma with a man who doesn't know how to communicate and has no emotional intelligence. You are worthy of healthy love. And it is out there I promise you.
I owe myself the deepest apology,
for allowing someone to disturb my peace and take me for granted. I stayed too long, gave too much, and ignored the way it was hurting me. I kept being understanding even when my feelings were not considered. I stayed quiet to keep the peace while slowly losing my own. I made excuses for people who kept disappointing me. But I'm finally learning that my peace matters too. I shouldn't have to beg for care, effort, or respect. Choosing myself doesn't make me selfish. Walking away from what hurts me doesn't make me cold. I deserve people who value me the same way I value them. From now on, I want to protect my heart, my energy, and my peace more.
the sexiest thing a man can do is learn you. not just love you, but understand you,know how to show up for you, recognize your silence, remember the little things, and make you feel seen. It's never about grand gestures; it's about being intentional in the ways that matter most
Unfortunately, I do want a provider. I do want a protector. I do want a leader. I do want a dominant man. I do want emotional maturity and effective communication. I do want mental stability. I do want to be spoiled. I do want self awareness. I do want clingy, obsessed and safe. I do want someone who chooses me every time. And nobody is going to make me feel bad for wanting those things in a partner.
Girl, emotionally unavailable men will drain you mentally and emotionally. A man who constantly hurts you, shuts you down, stresses you out, ignores you, and communicates poorly is not your soulmate. Please understand that.
I really owe myself an apology. For staying in places where I felt I wasn't wanted, but chose to hold on anyway. For trying to fix bonds that were already dead. For putting people first who would never have done the same for me. I knew better, but I kept giving chances. I kept showing up for folks who didn't appreciate me. So now I'm holding myself accountable, because I should.