ItsEuniceVictoria

[Abu Amir @SadiqMaunde]

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[leelee @liliisntit]

“i built lagos” don destroy lagos and the other 35 states wey he no build. 💔

[CHEF HANDS @itsredhands]

@somegrlsam this discourse has got me feeling i’m crazy for agreeing this shit is wrong and creepy.

[OurFaveOnlineDoc 🇬🇧 🇳🇬 @OurFavOnlineDoc]

This nursing mother was recorded by the terrorists after they were abducted few days ago in Oyo state.

The terrorists have since then beheaded one teacher and they still have 46 children brutally held up in a cave somewhere.

Let the whole world see this.

[Vedika @Crustology_]

After being raped for 23 days she formed a gang and killed 22 of her rapists 🙌👑

[♡⃝ @wine_x13]

Me in college: I’d like to be a doctor

College boyfriend: Well who is going to take care of ME then?

Me dating in my 30s: I am a doctor

Men on apps: I’m looking for a woman who is going to take care of me, not someone who is obsessed with her job.

Me married now with a career

My husband to everyone he knows and even random strangers: I married a DOCTOR, y’all. And she’s a SURGEON. I am so lucky.

Ladies, never settle.

[ItsEuniceVictoria @itseunicetoria]

Plugging you to a funny strip 😌.
Uwc

[Mamello🧚🏽‍♀️ @MelloFelicia1]

the more cult documentaries I watch, I realize I’m too lazy to ever be in a cult lol. it’s always manual labor, rituals and struggle

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

Using pregnancy to trap a man has to be the stupidest logic. Na you go suffer pass.

[TJ @ 肖恩妈的怀抱里 @bowlerrootx]

Calling for the ban of sth you don’t like, ok, then someone else calls for a ban on sth you like next time. Now they’re both banned. Where does the cycle end? You think it’ll always just be perfectly aligned with what you think is good or bad?

[Chicken Catcher🐔 @Only1Etubo]

I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again.

Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing.

Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for.

If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide.

But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.”

I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that.

Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.