If Adam is the standard, why are you only applying the standard to women?
Adam was a virgin too, single, childless and RICH!
Yet somehow, people invoke Adam and Eve to demand that a woman must be a virgin, while conveniently forgetting that Adam also came with no sexual history, no children, and no previous relationships.
If you’re going to use Adam as the blueprint, apply the whole blueprint; not just the parts that police women.
Most couples break up after having a baby because the woman changes and a lot of the time, she changes because she’s basically doing everything by herself. 😭 She has to take care of the baby, make the bottles, get up throughout the night, cook, clean, AND still take care of her man. Now she’s exhausted, overwhelmed, and touched out, so sex isn’t really on her mind. Then instead of the man stepping up and helping her, y’all start arguing, he feels neglected, she feels unsupported, and sometimes he ends up cheating. 💀
A baby doesn’t necessarily ruin a relationship. The lack of support after the baby comes can.
I love the idea of being with a man who naturally takes the lead while I get to soften beside him. Let him handle things, reassure me, protect me, spoil me, and remind me that I’m his precious girl.
“Oh it’s not fault they can’t accept the truth😒😒” . Whoever told them the know the ‘TRUTH’. As if they are perfect. Like what will it take you to be kind with your words abegggg. You can always lay your point without being verbally abusive koh??
Someppl go just open their mouth to talk to ppl anyhow shaa. They don’t care how it affects the person they are talking to or not. If somebody happened to do something serious to themselves as a result of their verbal bully they will still say without remorse…
If someone drains you, leave. If you have to edit your thoughts. Filter your words. Hide your success. Swallow your anger. Avoid certain topics. Leave. If someone makes you feel smaller, confused, more careful about every little thing, it means you do not feel psychologically safe around them. They do not belong in your life. Leave.
With all the fake drinks everywhere these days,
just buy your fruits & juice it😭
Day 37 of replacing soft drinks with homemade juices for my husband 💃🏻
only 3 ingredients! 👌🏽
May her soul rest in perfect peace and may her son knowledge in Al-Quran stays with him throughout his life and any ayah in the Quran that her son mention should always become a good deed for her in grave. Ameen
ABIN TAUSAYI: BAYAN SHEKARA ƊAYA, ZAN DAWO NA ƊAUKI HAFIZ…😭😭😭
Waɗannan su ne kalaman Hajiya Zainab Aliyu Muhammad lokacin da ta kawo ɗanta, Ismail Muhammad, mai shekara 13, ofishina a ranar 20 ga Satumba, 2025.
Ta damƙa shi a hannunmu domin shiga makarantar kwana ta haddar Al-Qur’ani, sannan ta ce mini:
“Malam, ka gyara shi, ka ladabtar da shi idan ya zama dole. Ban damu da irin ƙoƙarin da za a yi ba. Burina na rayuwa shi ne bayan shekara ɗaya, zan dawo na ɗauki Hafiz.”
Daga wannan rana ne Ismail ya fara tafiyarsa ta haddar Al-Qur’ani.
Amma mahaifiyarsa ma ta zama tamkar uwa ga sauran ɗalibanmu na makarantar kwana.
Kusan duk ranar Alhamis za ta kira ta ce:
“Malam, yaran nan suna azumi. Don Allah a bar ni in aiko musu da abin buɗa baki.”
Ba Ismail kaɗai take aikawa ba.
Dukansu.
Ko idan ta yi tafiya, abincin zai zo.
Ismail ɗanta ne, amma ta wata hanya, duk ɗaliban Al-Qur’ani sun zama ’ya’yanta.
Sai ranar 1 ga Mayu, 2026 ta zo.
Na samu kiran waya cewa Hajiya tana cikin matsananciyar rashin lafiya, har ana ba ta iskar oxygen.
Nan take na ɗauki Ismail muka tafi asibiti.
A can, tana fama da rashin lafiya, ta riƙe hannun ɗanta.
Ba takardun shaidarsa take magana a kai ba.
Ba dukiya take magana a kai ba.
Ba gadon da za ta bar masa take magana a kai ba.
Abin da kawai ta ce masa shi ne:
“Ismail, burina kawai shi ne ka zama Hafizin Al-Qur’ani.”
Sannan ta kalle ni ta ce:
“Malam, wannan ita ce wasiyyata gare ka. Don Allah ka tabbatar yaron nan ya zama Hafiz.”
Wannan shi ne karo na ƙarshe da na gan ta.
A ranar 17 ga Mayu, 2026, Hajiya Zainab ta koma ga Allah.
Innā lillāhi wa innā ilayhi rājiʿūn.
Ta yi alkawari cewa:
“Bayan shekara ɗaya, zan dawo na ɗauki Hafiz.”
Amma ba ta samu damar dawowa ba.
Kuma yanzu…
A yau, 12 ga Satumba, Shehu Giwa Exclusive Academy na taya Ismail Muhammad murna bisa zama HAFIZIN AL-QUR’ANI MAI GIRMA.
Ɗan ƙaramin yaron da ta kawo mini ofis…
yanzu ya zama Hafizin da ta yi ta addu’ar ganin ya zama.
Amma Mama ba za ta kasance cikin taron ba.
Ba za ta ji ana kiran sunan ɗanta ba.
Ba za ta rungume shi bayan walimar ba.
Kujerarta za ta kasance babu kowa.
Amma burinta ya cika.
Al-Qur’anin da ta yi matuƙar burin ganin ya zauna a zuciyar ɗanta, yanzu yana nan a cikinta.
Wataƙila duk lokacin da Ismail ya buɗe bakinsa ya fara karantawa:
Alif… Lām… Mīm…
lada ta fara tafiya zuwa ga uwa da ke kwance a kabarinta.
Ya ku iyaye, muna kashe miliyoyi wajen shirya ’ya’yanmu domin rayuwar duniyar da wata rana za su bari.
To, me muke tanadar musu domin rayuwar da ba za su taɓa bari ba?
Ku ba ’ya’yanku Al-Qur’ani.
Ku ba su ilimin addinin Musulunci.
Ku yi sadaukarwa domin Ākhirarsu.
Kuma idan kuka ji wannan labari, kada ku zubar da hawaye kawai.
Ku ba Hajiya abin da ya fi hawaye amfani — addu’arku.
Allah Ya gafarta wa Hajiya Zainab Aliyu Muhammad.
Allah Ya haskaka kabarinta, Ya sanya kowace harafin Al-Qur’anin da Ismail ya ke karantawa ya zama mata lada mai gudana.
Allah Ya sake haɗa su a Jannatul Firdaus, inda babu rashin lafiya, babu iskar oxygen, babu rabuwa…
kuma babu bankwana.
Āmīn.
Ibrahim Shehu Giwa
Direktan Makarantu,
Shehu Giwa Academy.
When I wanted to get married, I made a deliberate decision: I never took the engagement list given to me by my in-laws to my family members. I handled everything myself because I knew the kind of relationship and boundaries I wanted to establish from the beginning. I didn’t want a situation where my family would eventually start referring to my wife as “iyawo wa.”
A few years ago, we had a family function, and they requested that my wife come a day before the event after I had already contributed my share for the olópọ̀s. I said no.
I always remind my family: my wife is my wife, not “our wife.”
Setting boundaries in marriage requires a lot of responsibility from the man. You cannot expect your wife to have peace and independence in the marriage if you are constantly allowing your family to cross boundaries.
Sometimes, being the man of the house means having the courage to say NO, even when saying it may not make everyone happy.
Telling someone they can’t be sad just because someone else has it worse is a habit people need to stop. Pain isn’t a competition, and everyone deserves the space to feel what they’re feeling without being made to feel guilty for it.
I really wish things had turned out differently. I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I wish a lot, but if only wishes were horses right?! What has happened has happened and can’t be undone .…………………………… if you like Dey wonder wetin I do. You go tink tire😂😂
…and today I have decided to wear my mistake and shame on one of the layers of my skin. We all have skeletons in the cupboard. We all have done things we are not proud of . This skeleton, I wish it’s never seen. Just the thought of it makes me think to cross to the other side.
You're picking the person who will be with you on the worst day of your life. The day you have to bury a parent, the day the doctor calls you to give you bad news, the day you lose the job, the day your dog that you've had for 14 years doesn't come home. That's who you're choosing. And still most people date like they're casting a movie. Do they give me butterflies? Are they exciting? Is their chemistry cool?Butterflies aren't gonna matter when life punches you in the face and when that day comes, you will not care how charming they were on the first date. You'll care whether they stayed, you'll care whether they showed up, you'll care if they made the effort and they made the unbearable feel bearable. The older I get, the less I'm asking myself if I want to spend a saturday night with this person, and the more I find myself asking, do I want this person to stand next to me when my life falls apart
Very very true. No use parental love spoil them to the point they become a child that will stress you when you are supposed to be resting. May Allah help us to do well with parenting dai. I know it's not easy .
He took his wife to an Imam so that he could perform Ruqyah (Qur’anic healing) for her. After the Imam recited for a long time, the Jinn said that he would leave her body, but only on one condition.
The Imam said, “There is no condition. Just leave her body.”
The Jinn insisted that his condition must be accepted. The Imam said, “Tell us your condition so we can hear it.”
The Jinn said, “I will leave her body and enter her husband’s body instead.” Out of fear and shock, the husband stepped back. The Imam said, “Absolutely not! That will not happen!”
The Jinn said, “Do you know why I want to enter his body?” The Imam replied, “No.” The Jinn said, “He does not pray.”
The husband began swearing that he did pray.
The Imam then said, “Since that is the case, leave her body and go back near their house. If you see that the husband does not go to the mosque for prayer, then enter his body.”
The Jinn agreed.
A few days later, the woman called the Imam to thank him. She said, “By Allah, he is now the one who opens the mosque door every day. Sometimes, he is even the one who calls the Adhan.”
The Imam smiled and said, “There are many ways of commanding what is good and forbidding what is evil.”
The truth is that the whole story was a setup between the Imam and the woman, intended to make her husband start praying regularly.
What's your thoughts on this?
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