Some people don't love you, they just want to stay connected to you. The love, the benefits... so they do the minimal... a little phone call here and there just checking about you. What they are doing is maintaining a connection, so when they need you... they still have a way in.
What really motivates my healing is realizing that person doesn’t care. They don’t care they hurt you, in fact they would do it again. They are living their life not bottled down by the trauma they caused, how dare I give that person power over me?