Kari D

Designer. Hjertet på venstresida. For en rasjonell & åpen kjønnsdebatt, og tenker ikke være stille om det. Sporadisk aktiv, livet skjer.

[Kari D @itskari]

Skriver om at vi på venstresida ikke kan skygge unna kjønnsdefinisjonsdebatten om vi skal bli tatt på alvor i kampen mot reaksjonære, patriarkalske, pengesterke krefter, i dagens @Klassekampen✍️
https://t.co/XzCEgupoWe

[Janet Murray @jan_murray]

I believe people “peak” about trans ideology in stages - and we have to let them.

Because some of what people eventually discover is genuinely frightening and difficult to process. Push too hard too early, and instead of becoming more open to the evidence, many will simply shut down or turn away from it completely.

That aside, I spent the best part of a decade in digital marketing. Which is how I know - first hand - that most of us need to hear something more than a dozen times - and often in many different ways - before the message has any chance of landing.

And that we can't assume everyone is at the same 'stage' we are.

STAGE 0: “Live and let live.”

You support gay rights and assume this is mostly about kindness and acceptance.

You may feel uncomfortable about men in women’s spaces - but it hasn’t affected you personally, so you don’t think too deeply about it.

And because it’s all grouped together under LGBTQIA+, you’ve never really separated sex (LGB) and gender identity (TQIA+).

STAGE 1: Something unsettles you.

Maybe it’s a nurse being forced to share a changing room with a man who says he's a woman at work. A parent challenging a school because girls are expected to undress in front of a male pupil. Boys being allowed to join a girls’ only organisation.

At the same time, you start noticing language changing.
NHS leaflets that say “pregnant people” or “cervix havers”.
Women’s initiatives that include men.
Men in women’s sport.
Children being medically transitioned.

You still feel sympathetic - especially towards young people struggling with gender identity - but something feels ‘off’.

But you still think there must be a sensible solution.
Third spaces. Clear boundaries. Some kind of ‘compromise’ maybe?

But when you cautiously voice even mild concerns - or see someone else doing so - you realise these views are often treated as unacceptable.

STAGE 2: The penny drops.

You realise this isn’t simply about being kind to people who are different. People are being expected to publicly deny biological reality - socially, politically and professionally.

You notice people in positions of power saying ridiculous things - like ‘women can have penises’ or men can 'grow cervixes.' And that challenging such ridiculous statements costs people jobs, reputations and friendships.

You notice some gay people are pushing back hard - and why.

Because if sex is no longer real or meaningful, then neither is same-sex attraction.

So this doesn’t just affect women’s rights, but gay people too - whose hard-won rights also depend on sex being real.

You learn about women like Maya Forstater, Kellie-Jay Keen and Sall Grover - women who have been publicly attacked, vilified and, in Kellie-Jay Keen’s case, physically assaulted, for what feel like entirely reasonable positions about sex and women’s boundaries.

You learn what a “TERF” is - and how it’s used as a slur against women who defend their sex-based rights.

You see pictures of masked protesters holding up signs calling for women to be hanged and r*ped. Videos of activists calling for them to be urinated and defecated on. Simply for defending their lawful right to single sex changing rooms, toilets and other intimate spaces.

You notice journalists, politicians and institutions seemingly afraid to state basic biological facts. Male offenders - who have committed the most serious crimes - being described as women in the press.
You start to feel the chill.

Not just around women’s rights - but around free speech itself.

And start asking yourself:
If people can be pressured into denying biological reality - into literally agreeing that the man standing in front of them is actually a woman - what else can they be pressured into staying silent about?

STAGE 3: You can’t unsee it

You realise that men demanding access to women’s spaces aren’t poor, misunderstood people who simply want acceptance.

They are vulnerable.

But they need mental health support - not affirmation.

You learn that some may have a recognised condition called autogynephilia - where a man is sexually aroused by the idea of himself as a woman.

And realise - often with horror - that many public institutions have embedded harmful ideology in the name of compassion and inclusion. Without properly questioning it.

Allowing some men to bring their ‘kinks’ to work, education, social and other aspects of public life. In some cases, into settings that include children.

You still have compassion. And recognise that many vulnerable children - and their parents - have been swept up in something adults should have questioned much sooner. But know you can’t look the other way.

Because you now understand why so many ordinary people stayed silent - not because they agreed, but because they were afraid.

At this stage, some people speak publicly. Many speak up earlier.

Others support quietly behind the scenes.

But very few return to Stage 0 - and nor should they.

[Reem Alsalem UNSR Violence Against Women and Girls @UNSRVAW]

Sexual assault and violence is a long standing and essential part of the modus operandi used against Palestinians; not only recently and not only in Gaza! A deliberate tool of genocide, subjugation, and dispossession.

While being quite common and well-documented, it is not raised by States that continue to engage with Israel through trade and other forms of economic, political and cultural partnerships.

[Kari D @itskari]

@KamillaAslaksen Jepp.

[Kari D @itskari]

Foreldre som ikke ønsker Pride i skolen bør meldes bekymringsmelding på til barnevernet, mener en god del folk i kommentarfeltet hos Blikk.

[Kari D @itskari]

Post og kommentarfelt:
https://t.co/7Mx9kY5V5w

[Reem Alsalem UNSR Violence Against Women and Girls @UNSRVAW]

I welcome this announcement and thank the @iocmedia for restoring dignity, fairness and safety to its policies regarding the female category - rooted in common sense, facts and science! 👏

This achievement would not have been possible if it were not for the tireless campaigning and hard work of many women rights defenders, athletes, experts and scientists! Congratulations to you too!

[Kamilla Aslaksen @KamillaAslaksen]

🧵LO KJEMPER FOR KVINNER - FOR SÅ Å DOLKE DEM I RYGGEN
I dag var det debatt i Stortinget om KrFs forslag om å skrote BUFDIRs råd til offentlig ansatte i møte med "kjønnsmangfold".
@lonorge
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[GENID Norge @GENIDNorge]

Sett deg inn i saken og støtt spleisen!

Bufdirs råd om møter med kjønnsmangfold skal kunne drøftes offentlig. Velkommen til åpen høring den 13. mars ved Litteraturhuset i Oslo.

[Reem Alsalem UNSR Violence Against Women and Girls @UNSRVAW]

1/3 I join the authors of the letter led by @CATWIntl in expressing my alarm at the @CedawUn concluding observations on the #Netherlands, a summary of which was also published by the committee here:
https://t.co/laC815Rhlq

A copy of the letter by civil society to CEDAW can be found here: https://t.co/zKk4YbyZXw

[Kari D @itskari]

«Kiano Vafaeian, 26 år, är död.

Vid 23 års ålder godkändes Kiano Vafeian för eutanasi i Kanada, för diabetes och förlorad syn på vänster öga som underliggande tillstånd.»

Om aktiv dødshjelp i Canada:
https://t.co/UwCRzcfOad

[Kari D @itskari]

Godt spørsmål, og vel adressert også til @Raudt, SV, @Arbeiderpartiet og @senterpartiet.

Det begynner å bli nokså pinlig å tviholde på at 2+2=5 nå.

[Lars Audun Bråten @AudunBraten]

Rød Ungdom mener at menns kamp for å bli anerkjent som kvinner er den viktigste kampsaken på kvinnedagen. Hva mener @Raudt om dette? Det må velgerne få vite, skriver jeg i @Klassekampen i dag.

[Kamilla Aslaksen @KamillaAslaksen]

Klar tale fra likestillingsminister Lubna Jaffery.

Fordi Stortinget har vedtatt at det finnes flere enn to kjønn og at menn kan bli kvinner vil @bufdir se bort fra høringsinnspill som legger til grunn at kjønn er binært.

Vi kunne altså spart oss bryderiet.
@lhbnorge
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[Kari D @itskari]

«Og nei, det er ikkje respekt og ‘sunn fornuft’ å lata som at mennesket, som einaste pattedyr, kan skifta kjønn. Det er intellektuell latskap, og etisk havari.»

Herlig klar tale av Anne Kalvig:
https://t.co/GWQxSuJeOX

[Kari D @itskari]

@KamillaAslaksen med betrakninger om hvordan @bufdir’s foreslåtte råd
• mangler vitenskapelig forankring
• påtvinger oss et fremmedgjørende språk
• ikke ivaretar barns utvikling
• bryter med jenters og kvinners rettigheter

Høringsfrist i dag.

Les: https://t.co/JGgOJYIeoV

[Kari D @itskari]

Rådene fra @bufdir om hvordan off. ansatte bør tale om kjønn er ikke faglig, juridisk eller forvaltningsmessig forsvarlige.

Det er alarmerende.

Støtter GENIDs høringssvar: De bør trekkes tilbake, og Bufdir bør gjennomføre en ny, bredt anlagt utredning før ev. implementering.

[GENID Norge @GENIDNorge]

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GENID Norge har i dag levert vårt høringssvar til @bufdir om de nye rådene for “møter med kjønnsmangfold”.
Dette rådverket kan komme til å styre praksis i hele velferdsstaten.

[Kamilla Aslaksen @KamillaAslaksen]

HVA ER EN KVINNE? 🧵
En skulle tro spørsmålet var overflødig, men siste års lovgivning tvinger det fram.
I Storbritannia har spørsmålet gått helt til Høyesterett. 22. oktober kommer Susan Smith fra "For Women Scotland" til Oslo for fortelle om saken og kvinners nye rettighetskamp

[Kari D @itskari]

Brilliant thread.

«When women experience female specific problems, society doesn’t care until thousands of women band together and demand to be taken seriously

(...)

But when a tiny fraction of men say we need to dismantle all of women’s protections? “Jump!” “How high?”»

[Sonia E Arisland @SosialSonia]

By this logic, any legislation concerning any specific group are just ramblings. She’s saying words have no meaning and anyone can choose definitions by uttering magical words. If “woman” is everything and nothing, then “woman” doesn’t exist outside of the individual mind.

[Tor Arne Dahl @torarnedahl]

Drepende kritikk av den spinnville @Aftenposten-kronikken om «antikjønns-bevegelser» fra @AlexIversen. https://t.co/glRrfGx7mf

[Kari D @itskari]

Skrev et innlegg på fb-gruppen For venstresiden om hvordan kvinner som står opp mot kjønnsidentitetsideologi ikke møtes med argumentasjon, men med hatanklager, guilt by association, gaslighting og «ingen debatt!» (debatt er farlig, må vite).

Lar svarene snakke for seg selv.

[Victoria Smith @glosswitch]

I wrote about the radicalisation of Stephen Fry https://t.co/9Zf4B4HJLe