what doesnt kill you will have you naming 5 things you can see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste
DIY therapy but it’s just me sitting in silence while reassuring memes play in my head:
“Tough times never last.”
“Umepanic relax!!l
“Never mind about what it dawned today, but tomorrow. Because tomorrow it will not dwell as it dawns today. Tomorrow it will dawn another way.”
In my intern days. I'd walk from town to Kilimani to save money. I would then meet my boss who had been chauffeured to work at the entrance and he would tell me, "Young man, try use the stairs not the lift, it's healthier."
now that we know about perimenopause do you guys ever stop and think about how crazy it is that that's why your poor mom and your puberty age self were trying to kill each other for like a few years there
There's a physicist at Stanford named Safi Bahcall who modeled this exact principle and the math is wild.
He calls it "phase transitions in human networks." When you're stationary, your probability of a lucky event is limited to your existing surface area: the people you already know, the places you already go, the ideas you've already been exposed to. Your opportunity window is fixed.
When you move, your collision rate with new nodes in a network increases nonlinearly. Double your movement (new conversations, new cities, new projects) and your probability of a serendipitous encounter doesn't double. It roughly quadruples. Because each new node connects you to their entire network, not just to them.
Richard Wiseman ran a 10-year study at the University of Hertfordshire tracking self-described "lucky" and "unlucky" people. The single biggest differentiator wasn't IQ, education, or family money. Lucky people scored significantly higher on one trait: openness to experience. They talked to strangers more, varied their routines more, and said yes to invitations at nearly twice the rate.
The "unlucky" group followed the same routes, ate at the same restaurants, and talked to the same 5 people. Their networks were closed loops. No new inputs, no new collisions.
Luck isn't random. Luck is surface area. And surface area is a function of movement.
The lobster emoji is doing more work than most people realize. Lobsters grow by shedding their shell when it gets too tight. The growth requires a period of total vulnerability. No protection, no armor, soft body exposed to the ocean.
That's the cost of movement nobody posts about. You have to be uncomfortable first. The new shell only hardens after you've already moved.