My position on argumentation is often sourced from a phrase I read in a Japanese book:
'Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind even if you are right.'
This sentence from Carl Jung hits hard.
โNo matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.โ