People who don't put in the effort about to get mad about this, but yeah if you're not reaching out, making plans, showing up, don't expect the closeness to just exist! A lot of life and personal growth happens in a year, even in months. If we were close 2 years ago but you haven't made the effort and we don't talk, you don't know me anymore! That's now a different version of who I once was, and otherwise you have a parasocial relationship with me based only in what you see me selectively post on social media. Had to have reaaally honest convos surrounding this concept when I got married so I stand by that, ten toes down!
Tom Holland sharing a quote that said “if you have a problem with me, text me, and if you don’t have my number, you don’t know me well enough to have a problem with me” really stuck with me