take the sex away and you’ll come to realize that not many individuals have much to offer emotionally, mentally, spiritually or soulfully. our society, this generation is so pressed for physicality that y’all forget mentality and personality creates the bond and forms longevity.
i think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this and only thinking about others.
Having an emotionally mature partner is a blessing. To be able to say "Hey, this bothers me" & seeing the change almost instantaneously is really top tier. Like you heard me, you seen me, you validated me, you fixed the issue, no argument, no drama just pure accountability.
it took me a whole year to understand this. sometimes a person doesn't even love you for real. they just know you are a good person and they would hate to see you loving another person the way you loved them. happiness over history. LET THAT TOXIC SHIT GO.
SOCIAL MEDIA got EEEEERRRRYBODY feeling like they got so many options. YOU DON’T. Pay attention to the people who love, value, and hold you down IN REAL LIFE. The internet might make it look like there’s plenty of fish in the sea, but most of it AIN’T WORTH CATCHING.
Disrespect doesn’t define me. Disappointment doesn’t destroy me. I’ve made peace with the truth: people treat you from their level of healing, not your level of love.
men that are truly comfortable in their masculinity have no problem showing off how they worship their women, and women comfortable in their femininity have no problem being worshipped.
A therapist on IG said “You don’t chase them bc you love them. You chase them bc deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth staying for.”It’s not just about them. It’s about the part of you that still believes love has to be earned. Here’s why;
In this life, choose a CALM man. A man who will also be calm & generous with your heart, mood swings & insecurities. It's never just about the money >>