A narcissist's mindset: That didn’t happen, and if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, it's not a big deal. And if it is, it's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you made me do it.
NARCISSISTS expect everything to go back to normal, as if their actions left no scars. They invalidate your pain, minimize your experience, and act like the emotional damage they caused was just a “misunderstanding.” They want peace without accountability. Forgiveness without change. Access without growth. They expect you to smile again while you're still carrying the weight of what they did to you.