Being in love with someone is naturally suppose to make you want the best for that person but not to the expense of yourself. It is also not a requirement from the person you are in love with to show as proof of your love for them.
The entire Nigerian dating scene is a big mess and alot of people both men and women have the wrong mentaility about love and relationship but one thing is certain " we accept the love we think we deserve"
In reality, men are not spending on women to get her attention, they are spending on that woman so that she choose him over other guys. He thinks if he spends enough she will think he is more serious that every other guys in her DM, and so she will stop talking to them, and probably even date him.
But there is a problem. You don't know how much the other guys are doing and you don't know if a new guy will do more than you tomorrow. Hence, he is constantly facing an oppostion he doesn't know about.
Women understand this game very well and she plays it to her advantage. When she ask for an iphone, what plays in the guys mind is that if he doesn't buy it for her, she will think he doesn't like her and she will go to the imaginary oppositing guy to get it for her. She knows that's how you think.
Remember women most common phrase "if you don't do it, other guys will"
In most cases, there aint any guy who will, at least she will have to climb bed severally to get it. But guys don't reason when in love or eagar to get her so they succumb to her demands. Once she knows she did it once and it worked, you are in already. That will be the dynamics of your relationship till you have sense and breakup.
Another advantage of this strategy for women is that it keeps the man locked in. You won't want to leave your investment halfway because of an extra 500k so you keep getting her what she wants especially if you have the capacity to do so.
Infact, most guys who has the capacity to do so will never see any harm in what he is doing and what she is doing. They would call it love and romantic, they will use it to pepper people online as true love but there is no substance to the relationship. She is just one financial struggle from breaking up.
This is why it is difficult to advise a rich guy about a woman because what you call extortion, he calls love.
So how do you win the game of the current dating market? It's simple. You don't play!
By playing, you either win or lose but by not playing, you can never win or lose but that's what love and relationship should be. No winners or losers, just lovers.
You don't buy love, you don't chase attention or women, you talk to who wants to talk to you, you love who love you.
The downside is that you won't get women with this because majority of women now believe spending money on them is love but that's why not playing is what you should do.
My personal strategy in the dating market is talking to more women, not asking them out, just casual talking to more women and let who likes me and want to talk to me come out from there.
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