Working 8–9 hours a day and then going home to about 3-4 hours to yourself, which includes getting ready for the next day, is not living, to be very honest.
One thing about adulthood that way too many people learn way too late (and have no choice but to learn the hard way): you have to be deliberate/proactive about everything. For the first time in your life, you can't be passive participant in anything.