You want a relationship to work but you have to be willing to learn how a person needs to be loved. You need to know why they are the way they are... the history not just the easy stuff but the hard things also.
I had to learn a long time ago that kindness —real kindness, not industry nice — is so rare to some people that they would rather distance themselves from me vs accept that I like them just for being them, not what they accomplish or can do for me
Breaks my heart☹️