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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

I left my body because I grew up in a chaotic home without an emotionally connected adult. I have almost no childhood memories. I stayed up at night anxious that someone might break in. Anxiety is a symptom of not feeling safe and memories form in safety.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Trauma isn’t a pass for bad behavior. We’re all responsible for owning the role we play. If someone’s behavior is unsafe, our role is to protect ourselves. We aren’t here to rescue adults from themselves.

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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Growing up with a highly reactive parent conditions us to be easily overwhelmed as an adult.

Here's why:

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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

This can be because the parent is overwhelmed, overworked, dissociated, distant or shutdown, and/or unaware that a child has their own emotional needs.

They have very little (if any) emotional interaction with their children.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

As adults, we carry this shame. We fear asking for help. We shame ourselves for wanting to be loved. Or we believe we are broken because we deeply desire emotional connection, over surface relationships.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The child will develop deep sense of shame for wanting and needing support because they were rejected each time they went to a parent to get it.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

THE 4 PILLARS OF REPARENTING:

1. Emotional Regulation: the skill of successful navigating our emotional state. It's our ability to cope with stress in a flexible, tolerant, & adaptive way.

Practice witnessing your emotions, rather than reacting to them.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Through reparenting, we take responsibility to learn:
- how to meet our own needs
- how our conditioned mind works
- what our patterns are
- emotional regulation
- healthy ways to communicate
- self acceptance

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Many parent figures have their own unresolved trauma and aren't sure how to meet their own needs. This makes them incapable of meeting many of their needs of their children.

A generational cycle is created, and low self worth is developed.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

If we're raised by an emotionally immature parent figure, our needs are regularly dismissed and unmet. Emotional maturity stems from a lack of emotional resilience, the ability to process emotions, and communicate boundaries.

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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse.

It's used to control a situation and to avoid healthy communication.

Here's why:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse.

Intentionally punishing someone with removal of love is a coping mechanism of emotionally immature people.

It says: when you do something I don't like, I deny your very existence.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

How To Heal From Emotionally Immature Parents:

In homes with emotionally immature parents (EIP) we learn to walk on eggshells.

Emotionally immature parents struggle to cope with their emotions and often lash out, give silent treatment, remove their love, or shame their children often unintentionally.

Growing up in this environment, we learn we are not safe to fully be ourselves.

This creates emotional hypervigilance.

Emotional hypervigilance is a survival adaptation where we constantly scan our environment to see shifts or changes in people's mood, facial expression, or tone.

Emotional hypervigilance looks like:

- constantly asking “are you ok?” without accepting the answer

- chronic fear of upsetting or disappointing someone

- micromanaging adults behavior: telling people what they 'should' be doing even when they're not receptive

- playing peacemaker or mediator in family members conflict even when it doesn’t involve you

- replaying conversations over and over again to see if you said something 'wrong'

We're attempting to protect ourselves, but as adults emotional hypervigilance can really impact our relationships and can be source of intense anxiety.

How To Heal From Emotional Hypervigilance:

1. Understand you're no longer in childhood: in childhood, this kept you safe. As an adult you have options to protect yourself, remove yourself from harmful situations, and set clear boundaries.

2. Let go of the "fixer" role: people who are hypervigilant often believe their role is to fix the problems of adults. Often because they played a therapist role to a parent from a young age. We are not responsible for fixing anyone else's issues expect our own.

3. I trust people's words: if someone tells me everything is fine, I honor their word. I don't keep picking or looking to see if something is wrong. I don't make assumptions, instead I ask for clarity.

4. I allow people to be in their own mood: it's ok for people to be in a mood or emotional state that's different from me. I don't need to fix this or change their mood.

5. I can clearly communicate my needs: as adults, if we have a need, we need to communicate that need. We can't expect people close to us to mind read or 'just know' what we want.

6. I can disappoint people: disappointing an emotionally immature parent can result in the silent treatment, shaming, rejection, or harsh punishment. As adults, we can learn that disappointing people is simply part of life and that healthy adults can cope with disappointment.

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It will take practice to re-wire your mind and body to feel safe. Trust the process.

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