I’ve written a story for my wife, and she said I could post it here :)
I would love to know what you think if you’d take some time to read it
Compliments and criticisms are requested, please!
I think the nuance here is probably that someone who hasn’t consciously processed/ understood that they’ve experienced something traumatic if their subconscious does likely does need some kind of surfacing of these thoughts to integrate themselves into a whole self
Remember the expression “don’t bottle up your feelings”? Somehow this idea became conventional wisdom and I heard it constantly growing up—but it never intuitively made sense to me.
The same goes for the idea that we need to talk about our traumas. I once had a therapist who insisted I had to revisit the traumatic things that happened when I was young. But what actually helped me was not thinking about it or talking about it. I coped by distancing myself from those experiences—like they happened to someone else. The more space I put between myself and that girl, the better.
Something has always felt off about the idea that healing requires dwelling, ruminating, and rehashing the past. We need to start rethinking our approaches to mental distress because they aren’t working.
I'm glad some are trying to challenge the old practices. I came across this 2023 study: "Improving mental health by training the suppression of unwanted thoughts."
Sometime in the next month and a half I’ll reach 1000 days of sobriety :) that’s pretty neat - I’ll have to do the math and plan some sort of little celebration
"Magic doesn't exist"
*Inscribes tiny runes into magic rocks to making thinking machines using processes beyond the understanding of almost all mortal minds*
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