if they wanna talk, they will. if they wanna be with you, they will. if they wanna make things work, they will. don't let things be one sided. it's not healthy and it's not fair to you.
si supieran cuánto tiempo, esfuerzo, miedo, ansiedad y lágrimas cuesta volver a reconstruirse entenderían por qué hay que tener cuidado al elegir quién entra a nuestras vidas y quién no. A veces hay personas a las que no les importa rompernos y dejarnos vacíos
The most exhausting, unspoken burden on men in modern dating is that they are expected to be the sole architects of the relationship. A man is expected to initiate the first text, plan the dates, fund the experiences, orchestrate the proposal, and constantly drive the romance forward. We have completely normalized a culture where a woman’s mere presence is considered her "effort." The absolute second a man gets tired of being the only engine keeping the relationship moving and asks for equal romantic effort, he is instantly accused of being "inconsistent" or "low effort." We demand 50/50 modern equality, but aggressively enforce traditional male burdens the exact moment romance is involved.
There is a whole generation of men out here who are absolutely exhausted from being the "transitional guy." They come into your life, absorb all the trauma your toxic ex left behind, provide stability, and love you gently. But because your brain is still addicted to chaos, you mistake his consistency for a lack of passion. You drain his peace to heal yourself, and then abandon him because there isn't enough "drama" to keep you entertained. Men are constantly being used as emotional handymen to fix damage they didn't cause, only to be discarded the second the foundation is stable. It is pure emotional vampirism.