I’m not gonna lie man. If I was a kid, & my friend used his entire body to shield me from bullets, I’d swear my unfettered loyalty to him for the rest of my days. My house would serve house. My sons would be the best men at his sons’ weddings.
There is nothing good about poverty.
But Nigerian men have a poor conception money. You want money so you can fulfill a woman's billing because you feel useless without money to buy her affection.
Money is for paying bills. Knowing your bills are paid, gives you peace. Look after your family and love ones.
When women see how good your life is, they would want to be a part of it. It is that simple. It is not for you to be using money to chase them. You cannot buy anyone's affection with money. There is nobody under heaven that loves you, that puts financial pressure on you - whether you have the money or not. That is not the point of relationship. The whole essence of love is to find someone to love and to cherish, whom you want to spend a better part of your time with and be accountable to, because your lives are better together with each other.
Money is not the cake. Money is just the icing. Love is the cake. Money will help you buy one or 2 gifts to express your love because you cannot love without giving. Money will help you come through for your partner and throw random surprises. But the love has to be present first. Money will not create love that did not exist prior. You can buy relationship, but you can't buy love. This monetary spend also has to be mutual. As you're spending, she is spending because it shows commitment to the relationship on both sides. Where your treasure is, that is where your heart will be. Allow a woman to invest the whole of herself in the relationship, and it will continue into the marriage.
This whole act of giving is relative to capacity. Regardless of your economic class, everyone can love because love has nothing to do with money. But even in your little, there is always something to share. Always remember that whom you're with is more important than what you're doing, where you are and how much you spend. A love relationship is a love relationship even if it is in Ajegunle or London. A toxic relationship is toxic even if you are on a $20k trip to Paris. Special moments are special because of special people. Find your special person.
One thing about having standards is you have to be okay with being alone.
Good people are rare and if you’re not patient, you’ll end up settling for nonsense.
If your babe ask you for money and you do not have it. If you can't tell her that you don't have it or can't afford it, you do not have a relationship.
If you tell her to use her money and you'll refund it when you have, you're an idiot. She has money and you don't have. Who is supposed to be helping who? A relationship is not an adoption.
Nobody is manipulating you or putting you under pressure. You're just a fool.
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You're afraid your woman will not understand, or she will lose respect for you, or she would go and ask another man. Is that not an obvious red flag for you to fling her away abi your father is a bastard ni? If she wanted to do any of these, giving her money would not stop her. So.why are you daft?
If you cannot be truthful with your woman, you do not have a relationship. If you're truthful with her and she refuses to understand, you do not have a relationship. Date people with a healthy value system, you'll not hear.