“But you survived” NO I disassociate, like A LOT. My heart drops when someone raises their voice. I shut down very easily. And I'm far too observant. I always feel like a burden. I isolate often. But yeah, sure, I guess I survived.
I'm not toxic. I'm reactive. There's a person somewhere calling me difficult, and they're leaving out the part where they pushed every boundary I set, ignored every signal I gave, and then acted shocked when I finally stopped being gentle about it.
One of the hardest forms of detachment is detaching from the man who STILL wants you, but cannot meet the level of partnership your soul is actually built for.