it’s been around a week now and i usually don’t talk about things like this or bring this kind of stuff onto my account. but honestly, it’s gotten to a point where i’m starting to get tired of seeing it all over my timeline and trying to ignore it every time.
i’ve stayed quiet because i genuinely don’t have the energy to argue over this. if you’re disappointed, that is okay. if what happened changed the way you see someone, that is okay too. i am able to understand why some people reacted the way they did, even if i don’t personally feel the same way.
you are allowed to decide that something changed the way you see someone. i’m not going to tell anyone what they are or aren’t allowed to feel because it is not my place to do so, and neither is it anyone's.
but somewhere along the way, disappointment turned into something else entirely. what i don’t understand is how quickly it all has turned into this absolute hatred toward namjoon specifically. watching people who have spent years loving his music and talking about how much he has meant to them suddenly call him names and speak about him with so much contempt is honestly insane to me.
you can disagree with someone without deciding that everything they have ever said was fake. you can be disappointed without turning a person you’ve loved for years into a villain overnight. you can acknowledge that someone made a decision you don’t agree with while still remembering that they’re a human being whose entire life and personality cannot possibly be contained in one decision. especially someone you don't even know personally.
and with namjoon, some have spent years watching him grow, question himself, change, learn, make mistakes, create, reflect and constantly try to understand the world around him. we’ve heard him talk about his insecurities, his doubts, his relationship with fame, responsibility, art, music and overall the weight of being the person he is. we’ve watched him put so much of himself into the things he creates and shares with us that he never actually owed us in the first place.
those are actually one of the many things i’ve always admired about him. he has never seemed interested in presenting himself as some perfect person with all the answers. if anything, so much of his work comes from learning and trying to make sense of things.
and now i see people acting as though they have the complete picture of who he really is.
people are complicated. circumstances are complicated. growing up, different cultures, different generations and different experiences all shape how someone sees the world. not everything can be reduced to good person vs bad person, right vs wrong, or just "this proves everything about them." life is simply much more gray than just black and white.
he doesn’t stop being kim namjoon because the internet is angry with him. he doesn’t become a different person because people decided they no longer want to see him the way they did. and so many years of his life and the things he has shared with us don’t suddenly disappear because people are disappointed.
because behind all of it, he is still a person who is allowed to be imperfect. allowed to make decisions you wouldn’t make, allowed to have perspectives you don’t share and allowed to exist outside of what you expect from him.
you don’t have to forgive him. you don’t have to agree with him. you don’t even have to keep being his fan.
but you also don’t have to destroy him to prove that you’re disappointed.
i just hope that somewhere beneath all the noise he can always remember that there are still people who see him as a whole person and people who don’t expect him to be perfect, because no one could ever be.
i will always leave room for nuance. i will always leave room for things i don’t know. and most importantly, i will always remember that there is a human being behind all of this.
Let’s be fuckng serious. @PixelProject
RM didn’t ask to be on your fckng list. He didn’t submit himself for your approval. He didn’t endorse your organisation. So acting publicly “disappointed” because he went to a concert in his private time is performative as hell.
And the hypocrisy is impossible to miss. Chris Brown’s 2009 domestic violence case was public and he pleaded guilty to felony assault against Rihanna. Yet Bãd Bun̈nÿ brought him onstage in 2018, and you still named him your #2 Role Model in 2024. But RM takes ONE photo on his private day off and suddenly your remember your principles?
The funniest part? Your own previous reasoning for recognizing Namjoon was his willingness to learn from criticism, educate himself through women’s and gender studies, consult a professor about his lyrics, and speak about gender equality.
So don't rewrite his entire history because one pic doesn't fit the narrative you are selling today.
You used Namjoon’s name, turned a private moment into public content, dragged ARMY into it, and then followed it with a donation appeal.
That isn't accountability. That's using an artist you don't represent to generate attention, traffic and money.
You don't get to monetize RM's name and fandom while pretending you are the authority on his morals.
Fuckng Clean up your own contradictions first.
there’s SO MANY “fans” all of a sudden switching up like they’ve been waiting too and they “knew” or “had a feeling” they weren’t good people what are you on about. everyone needs to the shut the fuck up pls only open your mouth if you’re actually going to say something useful
i just really hope they’re all in a good place mentally and they stay away from this horrid place online bc people are making this out to be way worse than it is, genuinely think people have been waiting to tear them down and this is the opportunity to do so also noticing how
Namjoon is a normal good hearted dude.
He’s not the pinnacle of morality, he’s not an activist, he’s not a god, just a kind and smart guy that wants to live a good and happy life doing what he loves with his friends.
Stop trying to psychoanalyze his every move
Touch grass :)
run away. pushing me. pulling me. said you wanted all of me... but what is even all of me? suddenly. part of me is haunting me. heard the things they're calling me...but what the hell do you want from me?
this suspension thing is actually insane, genuinely cannot wrap my head around this. i’m disappointed and pissed with them YES but ffs they fucking a photo with the dickhead guy why are we acting like they’re fucking best friends who joined in on his activities OMFG