Jared Whitaker

Author (crime fiction + 8 non-fiction books). Runs workshops on domestic abuse, false allegations & parental alienation.

[Jared Whitaker @jaredwauthor]

Pre-Orders are now open for The Last Silence on Kindle
https://t.co/FpKh3FRl1d

#thelastsilence #preorder

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My new book is out next week, so I'm giving away signed copies of my last one.

Buy any of my online courses this week and I'll post you a signed Built To Be Broken, free. First 5 UK orders, ends Sunday.

https://t.co/9BqwrRYEkY

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Around three in four UK suicides are men.

We count them precisely. We don't record what was happening in their lives.

A problem nobody measures is a problem nobody has to fix.

Samaritans: 116 123.

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Five things to say to a man going through the worst of it:

"I've been worried about you."
"You're not the problem."
"I'd rather have you than any outcome."
"Get through today. Then tomorrow."
"Let's call someone together."

Samaritans: 116 123.

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The first person to notice a man is being abused is often not a police officer or a doctor. It’s a colleague. A manager. Someone in HR.

Most of them have no idea what they’re looking at, or what to say.

My Team Licence gives up to 10 staff all three of my courses: Domestic Abuse Against Men, Understanding False Allegations and Understanding Narcissism. That’s 62 video lessons, a workbook for each course, The Record and Calm Contact for everyone, lifetime access for every place, and a welcome pack.

It’s built for HR teams, safeguarding leads, charities, family law teams and support services.

£299 for 10 people.

https://t.co/U2oZVqskRm

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You can’t ask for help with something you don’t have a name for.

Plenty of men live with coercive control, gaslighting or financial abuse for years without ever having the words for it. They call it a bad patch, or stress, or “just how she is”.

So I wrote The Language of Abuse. It’s 83 pages and 453 terms, all explained in plain English.

It’s free. Download it, keep it, and send it to anyone who needs it.

https://t.co/TWEbg3NLK1

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For every birthday you’re not there for.

If you’re a parent who’s been kept apart from your children, you’ll know weekends are the hardest. The cards you can’t send. The things you’d tell them if you could.

I made For My Children for exactly that. It’s a keepsake journal you fill in now, for them to read one day.

Inside there are 10 birthday letters, 3 Christmas letters and 8 milestone letters, for things like starting secondary school, turning 18 and leaving home. There are pages for your story, your family history, and the jokes, songs and recipes only you can pass on. There’s a section for explaining what happened, without blame. And there’s a letter for the day you’re back together.

It’s a 52-page PDF. Fill it in on screen, or print it and write by hand. £7.99.

When they’re old enough to ask, they’ll find proof you never stopped thinking about them.

https://t.co/MYrOPTTKYU

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Two weeks today.

The Last Silence, out 19 November, International Men's Day.

https://t.co/4rV8zUxQbZ

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Today my wife Chloë launches her own small business, and I’m incredibly proud of her.

Teddy’s Light makes handmade memorial candles for families who have lost a baby or a child. It’s named after Chloë’s son, Teddy. Every candle is decorated by her, by hand, one at a time.

I spend much of my working life talking about the things people find hard to say out loud. Baby and child loss is one of them. Many families feel the silence most at Christmas, when someone small should be there and isn’t. A candle won’t fix that, but it can be a way of saying “we remember them too”.

If you know someone who is carrying that kind of loss, or you’d simply like to support a small, heartfelt business, please take a look or share this post. Every share helps.

https://t.co/PajfkiwZs7

#SmallBusiness #BabyLoss #ChildLoss #Handmade

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For anyone who's in it right now.

The story your mind is telling you about how this ends feels like a fact. It isn't. It's a symptom.

I believed mine completely. I was wrong.

Hold on through the worst of it. Tell one person you're not okay. Samaritans: 116 123, free, any time. If you might act on how you feel, call 999.

#MensMentalHealth #SuicidePrevention #ItsOkayToTalk #TheLastSilence

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@nottscountyfan1 Yup, waiting for it

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Men in the UK die by suicide at around three times the rate of women.

If any other health gap this big lasted this long, we'd call it a scandal.

Struggling? Samaritans: 116 123, free, any time.

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@EqualityOfOpps People will support it, because they won’t believe the truth about it, but if they do they shouldn’t just grow a moustache and not actually ask those around them if they are ok.

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Movember starts today.

Grow the moustache. Raise the money. And then do the bit that actually saves lives: ask the question.

"Are you okay? Really?"

Asking directly doesn't put ideas in anyone's head. It gives them permission to tell you the truth.

This month, The Last Silence comes out on International Men's Day, 19 November. Kindle pre-order link in bio.

Samaritans: 116 123, free, any time.

#Movember #MovemberUK #MensMentalHealth #SuicidePrevention #TheLastSilence

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Flash sale. 30% off everything on my PayHip shop until Monday.

Courses, toolkits, journals and the book bundles, for men who’ve been abused, accused or cut off from their kids.

Grab what you need before it’s gone:
https://t.co/7FPA7hbvrO

#LeaveNoManBehind #MaleVictims #DomesticAbuseAwareness #FalseAllegations #CoParenting #Advocacy

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@lizyeld @philwoodward20 It depends. I was told I would never see my kids, would be reported falsely as an accuser, have my work contacted etc. So in that situation you don’t leave.

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Stabbed, scalded, starved, and ten days from death. When Alex Skeel got to hospital, he went back home to her.

She became the first woman in the UK convicted of coercive control.

https://t.co/zKAf6SOLlV

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Matt Freeman thought he had it all. Then he met Emily.

A thriller for Halloween. The Words We Never Heard is a gripping and harrowing tale of love gone wrong, where the line between passion and peril blurs and the fight for survival becomes all too real.

Fiction. But rooted in truth. Kindle, paperback and audiobook - https://t.co/hlCXIkUz9N

#PsychologicalThriller #BookTrailer #HalloweenReads #ThrillerBooks #UKAuthor

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[Jared Whitaker @jaredwauthor]

Flash sale. 30% off everything on my PayHip shop until Monday.

Courses, toolkits, journals and the book bundles, for men who’ve been abused, accused or cut off from their kids.

Grab what you need before it’s gone:

https://t.co/7FPA7hbvrO

#LeaveNoManBehind #MaleVictims #DomesticAbuseAwareness #FalseAllegations #CoParenting #Advocacy

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@TheLinzerShow Welcome, wish I didn’t have to, but people need to know.

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@LenaMrsS78 @Drtimesup1 Have blocked them after the last message.

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Abuse isn't a male behaviour. It's a human one, and pretending otherwise has cost lives.

Men experiencing domestic abuse:
Men's Advice Line 0808 801 0327
ManKind 0808 800 1170
Emergency: 999