if someone asked me, "how do you want to be loved?" i might answer, "with gifts, flowers, or love letters." but if they asked me on a deeper level, i would say i want to be loved through the art of noticing. i want someone who remembers the little things without me having to repeat them. someone who says, "i saw this and thought of you." someone who notices the way i laugh, the way my voice changes when i'm sad, mad, or tired. someone who takes photos of me. someone who makes me ask, "how did you know?" and they answer, "of course, because i remember.
Normalize creating distance when you know someone's been speaking negatively about you. Family. In-laws. Cousins. Friends. Anybody. It doesn't matter. You don't have to keep showing up with a smile just to "keep the peace" while someone is comfortable disrespecting you behind closed doors. Boundaries aren't rude, they're necessary. If someone chose to speak on you, let them stand on it. You're not obligated to be extra cordial to people who haven't been genuine with you.
If you actually care, you don’t bolt when it gets uncomfortable. You stay. You talk. You sit in the mess and listen without letting your ego run the show. Most “walking away for peace” isn’t growth, it’s emotional laziness with better branding.
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→ Misogamist: A person who hates marriage
→ Misogynist: A man who hates women
→ Misandrist: A woman who hates men
→ Misanthrope: A person who hates and distrusts everyone
→ Philanderer: A man who has many casual love affairs
→ Narcissist: A person who has excessive love for themselves
→ Xenophobe: A person who dislikes or fears foreigners
→ Pessimist: A person who always expects the worst outcomes
→ Optimist: A person who expects the best possible outcomes
Stop begging people to love you. If they truly want to be in your life, they will show their worth through actions, not words. Your value is not something to beg for, it's something to be recognized.
Love yourself enough to know that real connections never require chasing; they flow naturally toward those who honor your worth.
Have you ever met someone your heart chose instantly, but life didn’t? Someone you wanted to love endlessly, yet they were only passing through. A lesson wrapped in a person. You gave them your version of love, and in return, they taught you the hardest truth that sometimes love means letting go, letting them be, and finally learning to choose yourself.
I had a friend who used to call me at 4am crying about her boyfriend. I’d wake up, listen, let her vent, and then go back to sleep, it happened more than once. One night I couldn’t sleep, so I thought I’d return the favor and called her at 4am. She answered and told me she was sleeping & I should call back tomorrow.
I learned one thing. The energy you give isn’t always going to be reciprocated, set your boundaries, even with “friends.”
A story is told of a Nairobi billionaire who was bidding farewell to his long-serving secretary as she retired after 30 years of loyal service. Out of gratitude, he decided to surprise her with a cheque of Ksh 500k, to ensure she’d have something to do after retirement.
To his shock, the secretary smiled and said,
“Sir, I really appreciate the gesture… but I already have enough.”
The billionaire blinked in disbelief.
“Enough? You’ve been earning around Ksh 70,000 a month all these years. How could you possibly have millions?”
Still smiling, she replied,
“All those years I’ve sat quietly in your meetings. When you bought land in Juja, I also bought a small plot nearby. When you invested in Safaricom and Equity stocks, I did the same — just with a few shares instead of thousands. When you started building apartments, I saved slowly and built rental rooms in Githurai. I simply copied your moves… only on a smaller scale.”
The billionaire was speechless.
While he had built empires, she had quietly built her financial independence — simply by observing, learning, and acting wisely.
The Lesson you learn here is that
✅ Who you surround yourself with determines the direction of your life.
✅ There are people who drain your energy, and those who sharpen your vision.
✅ If you spend time around dreamers, investors, and go-getters, their mindset will rub off on you.
✅ But if you spend your days with people who only complain about politics and gossip about others, you’ll inherit their habits — and their limitations.
Bees always lead you to flowers.
Flies always lead you to the Toilet.
Choose your circle wisely.
Walk with people who challenge you to grow, not those who make comfort look normal.
And most importantly — when you become successful, be that person who inspires others to rise with you.
Make sure you do the following tests at least 6 months to 1 yearly
1. Blood pressure
2. Blood sugar
3. Full hemogram
4. Kidney function test
5. HIV, syphilis
3 yearly tests:
1. Pap smear ♀️
2. Prostate exam and PSA ♂️
3. Liver function test
4. Hepatitis
When God designed you, He took into account everything you would face—every struggle, every unfair situation, every setback—and He put in you the strength, the courage, the determination, to withstand it.
This being the Customer Service Week where brands will be giving sweets and forcing employees to smile abnormally, name an organization that you feel as the worst customer service and needs to improve.
That thing called Mareej is not easy Ooh!! A woman in Rongo torched her own house and poisoned every goat, cow, and chicken after discovering that her husband, who claimed he was in Nairobi for a conference, was actually next door supplying electricity without an iota of blackouts,,, full voltage, and prepaid tokens already loaded.
“I was just passing by my neighbor’s house when I heard my husband’s laughter in the bedroom. And let me tell you jadwong, that man has never laughed like that in our house,, even when I showed him Ruto's manifesto!”
The husband was forced to activate Kihuti fearing for his life after the wife launched a flying kick ndiraa on the widow's grass roofing maisonette while carrying a Shoka. May Yehova Wanyonyi remember his poor boyshauuds in that thing called Mareej.