if you dedicate all your time to whining about "women fetishizing gay men" and don't spend any talking about men fetishizing lesbians, you're a) a trend hopper, b) performative, and c) looking to blame women cause it's easier than confronting systemic problems
one of these things is, AT WORST, cringey or annoying to you, and the other carries systemic violence. and the one that's battled more online these days is not the one that comes with violence
@sichono lesbians are the ones always having to defend themselves bc no one else gets attacked, so OBVIOUSLY all the self defense posts like these are about lesbians branching out. like put 2 + 2 together here
@sichono and "directed at lesbians?" this isn't a lecture at lesbians, it's a self defense FROM a lesbian who is being targeted under higher scrutiny than anyone else ever faces for their fiction, which YOU are now doubling down on
can't even laugh like i wish i HAD been wrong but i do question why people were so desperate to shove their heads up the duffer's assholes to defend them when it was clear from the start they were more comfortable using slurs than giving rep
anyway this is the sourest ever "i told you so" moment but the way people were seriously arguing with me that stranger things was not homophobic bc rovickie existed only for them to be so homophobic with the epilogue...
you don't notice gay men being fans of w/w or even women because we're not made out to be a whole genre of different humans for it like women who like m/m are. we exist in droves (especially us theater gays) but it's not weaponized or even considered noteworthy
and it should cause people to question themselves, upon being informed that there is a misogynistic double standard, why their gut reaction is denial of that possibility out of the desire to keep villifying certain groups of women, and what that might possibly be motivated by.
i think yaoi and m/m spaces need to get redefined as safe spaces for trans men specifically bc there are SO many of us here and actually much fewer cishet women but somehow the dominant perception is that liking gay fiction makes you a cishet woman.