Your SPOUSE is the one who'll sit beside you when your PARENTS DIE. who'll hold your hand through CHILDBIRTH. who might have to BATHE YOU if you're ever too sick to stand. this isn't just about BUTTERFLIES or DATE NIGHTS. it's about choosing someone who SHOWS UP... in GRIEF, in MESS, in UNCERTAINTY. so no, LOVE ALONE isn't enough. COMMITMENT, MATURITY, and the ability to ENDURE life's ugly parts... that's what sustains a MARRIAGE. because when life gets PAINFULLY REAL, ROMANCE won't carry you... CHARACTER will. and the truth is, FOREVER is only possible with someone who knows how to STAY when it's HARD TO LOVE.
My dad retired at 59
I will not
He had a pension. I have a 401k I can barely fund.
He bought his house at 28.
I can't touch a down payment at 30.
He paid $90 a month for health insurance. I pay $430.
At dinner he told me I need to be smarter with money.
I nodded.
Didn't tell him his entire life was built on an economy that no longer exists.
Didn't tell him my generation is paying for his Social Security while ours gets gutted.
Didn't tell him the ladder he climbed got pulled up right after him.
Just passed the potatoes.
Make it make sense
People have exactly a two-week limit on their sympathy. When you first break down, everyone is supportive. But if your depression lasts longer than a fortnight, they get incredibly annoyed.
You are not allowed to have long-term struggles. Society expects you to have a quick, cinematic breakdown, cry it out over the weekend, and bounce back to being productive by Monday.
The exact second they realize your depression isn't just a temporary mood swing but a constant struggle, the "take all the time you need" energy completely vanishes.
They stop checking in and start treating your mental state like a deliberate character flaw. You aren't struggling anymore; you are just "not trying hard enough" or "choosing to be miserable."
If you’re hunting for a remote job, you just need to figure out how Reddit works, and you’ll never be unemployed for a long time.
Here’s a list of subreddits you should bookmark right now:
This lady argued that men and women can be just friends without catching feelings. So a guy told her to prove it by calling one of her male friends. She called her 9-year male bestie and asked him out on a romantic date and this was his response. Dey play�
i pray debt collectors call me
last month one called about a $4,300 medical bill. i let him do his whole speech. then i said six words:
"is this debt past the statute?"
silence
in 38 states, debt expires after 3-7 years. once it passes the statute of limitations, they cannot sue you for it. legally. the debt still exists on paper but they have zero enforcement power
they're calling you hoping you don't know this. because the second you make a payment, even $1, the clock RESETS and they can sue you again for the full amount
that's why they say "just pay $50 to show good faith." that $50 reactivates the entire debt. it's a trap and they know exactly what they're doing
the play when a collector calls:
step 1: say nothing about paying. say this: "please provide written validation of this debt under FDCPA Section 809"
they are legally required to stop all collection activity until they send you written proof. most junk debt buyers can't produce it because they bought your debt in a bundle for 4 cents on the dollar and don't have the original paperwork
step 2: check your state's statute of limitations at your state AG's website. if the debt is past the SOL, send this letter:
"this debt is time-barred under [state] statute of limitations. any attempt to collect or sue is a violation of the FDCPA. cease all contact immediately"
step 3: if it's on your credit report and it's past 7 years, dispute it. "this account exceeds the FCRA 7-year reporting period. remove immediately." bureaus must remove it within 30 days or face $1,000 per violation
i helped someone wipe $23,000 in zombie debt in one afternoon. four letters. zero dollars paid
the collectors who called her every week? gone. the accounts on her credit report dragging her score down 80+ points? deleted. she went from 588 to 691 in 45 days without paying a cent
debt collectors buy your old debt for pennies and try to scare you into paying full price. their entire business model depends on you not knowing your rights
now you know
(link in bio. i delete debt and fix credit scores)
This interview with Tracee Ellis Ross is so good! I’d recommend everyone tune in.
This “May I” vs “I am” method is brilliant for grounding and affirming yourself for the present and your future.