unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.
Date ppl who are gentle with you bc love is ethical before it is emotional. That part gets skipped a lot. Attraction & chemistry can be loud but even trauma has chemistry too.
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.
this is def triggered by father’s day coming up, and if you’re fortunate enough to have a supportive father in your life… please hold them close 💜 RIP EZ 🕊️
i don’t post on here ever anymore, so i feel like no one will see this. which makes me feel comfortable enough to say that i miss my dad more than anything in this world. it’s been almost 3 years & the more that i feel like i get “used” to the feeling… the more guilty i feel-
my life will never feel the same without him. my world has become so quiet without him around & i’m blessed enough to he surrounded by amazing people, where i always feel loved… but i’d give anything in the world to see him again
One thing I've learned this year:
People can genuinely care about you and still not have the capacity to love you the way you need to be loved.
That's why self-respect is important. Sometimes choosing yourself means walking away from something you wish could've worked.
i fear the hottest relationship dynamic is when a woman acts like a chaotic creature and the man finds it deeply amusing instead of spiritually exhausting