things that donโt mean anything:
- i love you
-meeting their family
-being with them at their lowest
-taking about the future
-calling for hours
-genuine caring about them
Unfortunately my last relationship completely changed me. So yes, I DO care about the people in your phone. Yes, I DO care about what you're doing when Iโm not around. Yes, I DO care when you seem even slightly off. Yes, I DO care about things I wished I didnโt. And itโs not because Iโm insecure, controlling, or trying to make your life difficult. Itโs because I learned the hard way what it feels like to trust someone fullyโฆ and then be broken by them
I want romance. I want intimacy. I want the 2 am love making. I want consistency, loyalty. I want the random looks of admiration. I want to know you're just for me. I want date nights. I want love so pure and true. I want it because I can return it.
Ppl LEAVE EVERY TIME IT GETS UNCOMFORTABLE. You donโt want peace. You want control. The moment somebody asks questions, needs clarity, or holds you accountable, now you need space. But space isnโt growth when you only use it to dodge hard conversations.
Saying "I love you" and discussing a future with your partner, then abruptly leaving their life, is one of the cruelest things you can do to another human being.
And no, your childhood trauma doesn't justify blindsiding someone who trusted you.