My blackpill is that you cannot talk people into having grace for you. Either they do or they don't. More important is you having grace for yourself, and rejecting anything that challenges you for that, while doing your best to improve. And you're unlikely to get support for this
I don't think enough people have grasped the gravity of the moment we're living through. Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, something profound is happening in this country. We are witnessing a defining chapter in our history unfold in real time.