The brain is about conserving energy and keeping us within our familiar patterns. Our familiar patterns feel safe (predictable) to our brain.
Even if those patterns are making us miserable.
I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this & only thinking about others
When you commit to a partner, you also commit to their past, their coping mechanisms, and their communicate style. Choose wisely. They will be the greatest impact on your overall mental wellness.
Suicide comes from deep pain, agony, and despair where one knows no other way but to end their own life. The idea that it's selfish creates so much stigma. We need to stop judging and start understanding how people get to this emotional rock bottom.