I chatted with Dhanush in October, a few weeks into Commons. Since then, I tested a second cohort. Trips stood out as the best way to connect. Now I’m hosting the first expedition
Living with my friends has been the biggest life improvement this year. Most of my life, I struggled to meet my need for social connection. It's unrealistic for our partners to do so, yet hard to connect with friends at a distance. Now I see my friends at the gym, in the elevator, and during meals. This isn't talked about enough!
@chrstphrstr@e_ssshadow Friendship always requires effort, children just have the friction removed by their parents. They bring them to the playground, school, or arrange play dates. We gotta do this ourselves as adults. One way to do this is to move to a place with less friction.
I traveled after 80+ days at Network School. It’s been nice to have a routine, but now I needed a change of environment.
Since coming here, I went on five day trips, including Singapore, surfing, and hiking, but this has been my first proper weekend trip.
We drove 2.5 hours to the jetty. It was just sketchy enough to make us laugh. The 20-minute boat ride was fun and we were greeted by the resort crew when we landed. “This is how Columbus must have felt” said @sigstrategos.
Each of us got our own chalet right by the beach. I still felt occupied by thoughts about work. The others took a nap after lunch and I explored the beach.
We went on a jungle trek to another bay. I walked barefoot through mud and thorns and finally felt like my calm self again. We arrived at another resort with a 1km long sandy beach. We had it to ourselves.
It was fun to float in the water, get crushed by the waves, play frisbee, and lie down in the sand. I finally felt relaxed.
We returned through the jungle and rested. The water is scarce here. That made me appreciate the few shower drops even more ;) It was nice to see the jungle through the semi-closed bathroom while getting ready. I kinda wanna live like that.
Hearing the waves break two meters away made me wanna live near the ocean again. I know Forest City is by the ocean, but it’s not the same. I like the rawness of this place.
David was fasting, but Juan and I had dinner. They had set up our table outside. I missed dinners in nature. I forgot to mention, but there are just a handful other guests here. It’s so quiet.
The dinner was refreshingly light and nourishing and we had a good conversation until late. I felt so much lighter than I had left this morning.
Sometimes I forget how much a new environment and nature can do in a day. Oh, and now I get to fall asleep to the sound of the waves
@JensHonack@NikHuno Yeah, I often feel uncomfortable charging money because it seems too much. I’m learning to recognize my contributions and ask for fair compensation.
In the past, I tended to give, give, give and burn out. Good food for thought. Thanks for sharing!
In our self-discovery circle, we talked about money. I’ve a strange relationship with it. On the one hand, I believe money is useful for value creation. But on the other hand, I feel shame for wanting it.
We changed to rolling applications and crossed 50 members this month. We’ve four core events and one trip per week. Testing new formats at high volume to understand what helps our members increase trust and wellbeing.