A major reason abuse thrives is because of silence. Especially silence from those you expect to know better & hold their person accountable. In-laws will keep silent. Siblings will turn the other way. All abusers should be called out, no peace for the wicked.
a man that beat his ex will beat you.
a man that was financially abusive to his ex will do the same to you.
a man that rapes or raped someone will most likely rape you too.
you’re not special. avoid problems. stay out of trouble. don’t be a statistic.
Another thing I hate that this whole situation just reminded me of is how certain families set up a system where the “eldest” can never be at fault and they’re entitled to anything based on that.
I really want everyone to find people and spaces where they're cared for deeply. Not merely performative gestures and speeches for social media, but genuine friendship, companionship, and love that doesn't require you to do anything but be authentic and grow.