There is a particular kind of manipulation that thrives in Nigerian Muslim communities and it has been so normalized that most women do not even recognize it when it is happening to them.
It sounds like this: "A woman who chases money will forget her home." "Financial independence will make her arrogant." "She doesn't need to work, that is the man's responsibility."
And because it is delivered wrapped in religion, most women swallow it whole.
But here is what nobody tells you that is not Islam. That is insecurity dressed in a jalabiya.
The Quran gave women property rights over 1400 years ago when Europe had not even conceptualized the idea. Khadijah (RA) was one of the wealthiest merchants in Mecca.
She employed the Prophet ﷺ before he became a Prophet. Her financial power never made her less of a wife, less of a Muslimah, or less of a woman. It made her one of the greatest human beings to ever walk this earth.
So when did we decide that a woman knowing her money is a threat?
I will tell you when. The moment men realized that a woman with options is a woman they cannot manipulate. Financial dependency is not modesty. It is a control mechanism. And we have been conditioned to protect it by calling it deen.
I have always believed that money is not a man's conversation it is a human necessity.
And as a Muslim woman specifically, understanding wealth is not rebellion. It is your right. It is your protection. It is quite literally built into your religion.
Nobody should have to be
Beg for maintenance, stay in a toxic marriage because they cannot afford to leave, or shrink their ambitions because a man's ego is more comfortable with their ignorance.
Women like @ronkecarew exist in this space and remind me that this is not a radical opinion. It is simply what happens when you actually read when you go back to the source instead of inheriting somebody's cultural anxiety and calling it faith.
Know your deen. Own your money. They were never in conflict to begin with. 🤍