You don’t have to support abortion. You’re allowed to feel uneasy about it. You can dislike it. You can wrestle with it. Those emotions are yours.
But if your real goal is fewer abortions, that starts with prevention.. comprehensive sex ed, affordable birth control, and healthcare that reduces unintended pregnancies.
What isn’t okay is shaming or dehumanizing someone for their decision. You don’t get to strip away someone’s rights because their choice makes you uncomfortable. Your personal feelings don’t override another person’s control over their own body.
You don’t have to agree with abortion.
You do have to respect a woman’s right to make that decision safely and legally.
For three months, I was convinced my coworker secretly hated me.
Every time I walked into the office kitchen, he’d go quiet. He’d close his laptop when I passed by. He never laughed at my jokes. In my head, it became a full series: Season 1 The Workplace Nemesis. I replayed every interaction like evidence.
One day I finally asked him if I’d done something wrong.
He blinked.
Turns out he thought I didn’t like him. He said I always looked “intimidating” and serious, so he tried to stay out of my way. The laptop closing? He was embarrassed about playing fantasy basketball during work hours. The silence? Social anxiety.
We both spent months starring in completely different dramas… in the same room.
The stupidest part? Nothing was happening.
It was just two overthinkers building entire plotlines out of eye contact and bad timing.
That’s when I realized: half of the tension in our lives is self-written fan fiction.
you're about to pay that $14,000 hospital bill. Stop
call the billing department and say five words: "I need an itemized statement"
watch $14,000 turn into $4,200
hospitals don't send you itemized bills by default. they send you a summary. one line. one number. pay this
the itemized version shows every single charge. and that's where the scam falls apart
$78 for a single Tylenol you could buy at CVS for $3 $400 for "room usage" for a room you sat in for 12 minutes $1,200 for "physician consultation"
when a nurse practitioner spent 45 seconds checking your chart $250 for "surgical supplies"
when you got 3 stitches and a bandaid duplicate charges for the same procedure billed twice under different codes
hospitals get away with this because most people never ask. they just pay the summary or let it go to collections and destroy their credit for 7 years over charges that were never real
the call script:
"Hi, I'm calling about account number [X]. I'd like a fully itemized statement showing every individual charge, CPT code, and unit cost. I'm also requesting the chargemaster rate versus what my insurance was billed"
they'll push back. "we already sent your statement." no. you sent a summary. you want the itemized breakdown with procedure codes
once you get it:
step 1: google every CPT code on the bill. compare their price to the Medicare rate for the same procedure. hospitals routinely charge 300-800% above Medicare rates. you now have negotiating leverage
step 2: call back. "I've reviewed the itemized statement. There are duplicate charges on lines [X] and [X]. The charge for [procedure] is $1,200 but the Medicare reimbursement rate is $180. I'd like to discuss a fair adjustment"
step 3: ask about financial hardship discount. every nonprofit hospital has one and many for-profit hospitals do too. most require a simple application. income under $60K-$80K for a family qualifies at most nonprofit hospitals for 40-100% reduction. they won't volunteer this. you have to ask
step 4: if they won't negotiate, say "I'd like to file a formal billing dispute and request review by your patient advocate"
this triggers an internal audit. a different person reviews the charges. errors get caught. bills get reduced
step 5: offer a lump sum. "I can pay $3,800 today if we can settle this account in full." hospitals would rather take $3,800 now than send $14,000 to collections where they'll recover a fraction of the balance
and if it already went to collections? the collection agency bought that $14,000 bill for pennies on the dollar. they'll often take a fraction of the original amount to delete it and walk away happy
you were about to destroy your credit for 7 years over a bill that was mostly inflated charges
five words would have saved you
(i repair credit in 60-90 days, links in my bio)
In the USA in 1943 they produced a film 'Don't be a Sucker' about fascism.
It perfectly explains Nigel Farage, Donald Trump, Elon Musk and the entire Right.
It is 1996, we have a president born in 1946
It is 2006, we have a president born in 1946
It is 2016, we elected a president born in 1946
It is 2026, we have a president born in 1946