anger has an object. loss does not. its easier for us to shift our energy to anger because it has structure, then accepting that our loss has no object and structure and keeps reminding us that it’s something beyond our control.
People do not do wrong to you. They do what they think is right for themselves. Their betrayal. Their selfishness. Their cruelty. It's not about you. It's about their own fear. Their insecurities. Their emptiness. See this, and you'll be free. You'll be happier.
a part of being an adult is living with regret & not allowing it to consume you. the older you get, the more mistakes you've made, opportunities you've missed, people you've disappointed. & everyday you have to remind yourself to be kind & forgiving of yourself. you must move on, knowing now as old as you feel today, you'll never be this young again.
Keep your problems smaller than your life. A flat tire is a flat tire. A bad meeting is a bad meeting. A canceled flight is just an extra two hours. These things become catastrophes when you let them. But they stay manageable when you remember the depth of your real life- the people you love, the work you care about, the beautiful years still ahead. Zoom out. Fit your reaction to the size of the problem.
orang yg sering refleksi dan orang yg ga pernah refleksi itu kelihatan banget bedanya dari cara mereka membawa diri atau pas ngobrol sama orang lain. penyampaian orng yg sering refleksi mostly lebih humble karna mereka paham kalau mereka punya batasan dan kekurangan.
my mom once told me “accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others” and that shit is real.
Saran dari Anne Hathaway ini bener-bener mindblowing dan nampar banget buat kita yang suka keras ke diri sendiri.
Anne bagiin tips terapi foto yang dia dapet dari dokternya.
Coba ambil dan tatap foto masa kecil kita. Terus, ucapin semua hal jahat, semua makian, dan semua insecurity yang sering kita tujuin ke diri kita saat ini, langsung ke anak kecil di foto itu.
Tega nggak?
Pasti nggak bisa kan? Anak kecil di foto itu nggak pantes denger kata-kata sejahat itu. Terus, kalau kita nggak berani ngomong gitu ke anak kecil, kenapa kita tega ngelakuinnya ke diri kita yang sekarang?
Kita sering lupa kalau anak kecil itu masih ada di dalam diri kita. Kalau lagi sukses kita sering mikir itu cuma hoki, tapi giliran gagal dikit aja langsung ngehukum diri habis-habisan.
Lewat saran mbak Anne ini kita diingetin lagi, yuk pelan-pelan stop self-sabotage dan mulai lebih berbaik hati sama diri sendiri.
You deserve kindness from yourself 🥺🤍
my therapist told me this and it hit me: “healing is so hard because it is a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety.... your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice.... and your current self-who is tired and just wants peace."
Eu amo o fato de que as abelhas são os únicos insetos dos quais temos registro brincando. Sim, AS ABELHAS BRINCAM! E esse é um comportamento comum entre as abelhas jovens. Há estudos de observação em laboratório mostrando que elas chegam a escolher brincar em vez de se alimentar.