I lost friends when I stopped partying , I lost friends when I grew up and realized what was toxic , I lost friends once I became the boring friend who just wanted to chill and not do stupid shit . I realized what I wanted in life , and because of that I lost " friends "
Your partner tells you she’s had a bad day and instead of creating a safe environment for her to vent and release, you offer solutions further invalidating her emotional needs. The inability to differentiate when someone needs solutions vs an outlet is rooted in lack of empathy