some of the worst things i had to learn growing up is that whenever white people interview any poc about any world issue they'll always try and pretend they're "calm" and "sophisticated" in an attempt to make us seem like animals for being emotional and enraged
I so appreciate that this piece was written. The first piece of advice I have for new parents is to put their kid on the waitlist for daycare IMMEDIATELY. Like “pee on a stick, get on a waitlist.”
It’s sort of a joke but I’m also serious, and it should not be this way.
It has been exactly one year since our film premiered at SXSW. I tried (and failed) to sum up all of my feelings in a far too sincere instagram post you can go and find if you're curious (or bored).
Heyyyy! Congratulations to Randall Park and the team behind Shortcomings. Really enjoyed this film. That said, I am simultaneously looking forward to and dreading the discussions it will inspire. https://t.co/HeEWGfIa8v
Actually, you’re wrong on every account.
How do I know?
Every year, until 2021, @fatalencounters, me and a team of analysts dissected news articles, police reports and FBI data in an attempt to count the number of people killed by police
We discovered a few things:
Unconfirmed reports right now that the Monterey Park shooting may have been intimate partner violence. Again super unconfirmed, but if so, I ask that you please not look away just bc this heinous violence might be gendered, rather than explicitly racialized.
This morning I really sensed a resistance to going to my pre-apprenticeship, but not simply for lack of interest. I really wanted/still want a personal day, to be away from people. Naming it allowed me to consider options and I chose to still attend. I'll keep self-monitoring...
3/ I'm sharing this cause normally in these moments I just keep it to myself or only tell my spouse in passing, and just hope it goes away. The experiment is to see how I feel when I just name it and really be with the depressive feelings.
1/ I was waking from a midday nap (as I often do while kiddo is asleep) and about to get on my first ever livestream group session with a professional piano coach (wish I'd been excited about) and I noticed I didn't feel like getting out of bed...
2/ in that moment I realized I'm depressed, or having a depressive wave, that I've likely been ignoring or been unaware of maybe cause of the hustle bustle of the holidays, but likely more due to a general lifelong practice of not listening to my body and inner knowing.
Wish I'd heard this advice sooner. I'm terrible at sharpening my own knives. At least my expensive knives were gifted to me (the $$, that is, cause Lao folks have a superstition about gifting actual knives). Hope more ppl out there see this advice. 🤞🏼
I'm always amused by the shift in what is considered "good weather" once winter hits in Portland. Today it's not raining, skies are still grey, 47° and I'm roaming around Washington Park with Kaiyah like, "OMG IT'S SOOO FREAKIN NICE OUTSIDE!!!" 🥰