Gw tuh baru tau ada "trend" provide pacar ๐ .
Gw punya anak perempuan, gw bayarin dari sekolah, life style, branded bags, liburan, fancy restos dll. Insya Allah ga pernah diajarkan minta-minta ke pacar, hanya boleh minta ke ortu.
Kalo amit-amit ga punya duit? ya belajar cukupkan apa yang ada, nabung, kerja, magang. Bukan cari pacar untuk menutup kekurangan finansial.
Ngga minta ke pacar ini bukan gegayaan, ini tentang struktur nilai.
Anak perempuan (dan laki-laki) perlu tumbuh dengan rasa cukup, harga diri, dan kemandirian. Supaya ntar pas milih pasangan, pilihannya datang dari posisi setara, bukan dari kebutuhan, apalagi ketergantungan.
Karena hubungan yang sehat itu dibangun dari dua orang yang berdiri utuh. Bukan dari satu menopang, dan satu bergantung.
Dan menurut gw, ini bekal penting untuk hidup jangka panjang.
"Gimana kalo udah mau nikah?"
Kalo konteksnya mau menikah, ya beda cerita. Yang saya bahas adalah situasi baru pacaran, atau malah sebelum pacaran udah punya ide ntar pacar harus membiayai ini itu.
"Gimana kalo dikasi, si perempuan ga minta?"
Pacar kalo ngasi berlebihan (meski ga diminta) -- saya akan suruh balikin dan akan saya tegur pacarnya. Tidak boleh berlebihan selama pacaran. Ngga boleh ada salah satu pihak yang dibuat merasa "berhutang" "sungkan". Semua harus setara power-nya.
Kalau dari awal sudah terbiasa diberi, nanti akan sulit membedakan mana cinta, mana transaksi.
Garosero pledges to release new video of Kim Soohyun dating Kim Saeron during her high school years tonight amid Kim Soohyun's press conference
https://t.co/fEP28eAR3F
Garosero pledges to release new video of Kim Soohyun dating Kim Saeron during her high school years tonight amid Kim Soohyun's press conference
https://t.co/fEP28eAR3F
โKim Saeronโs family sent email to 100 media press but all rejected, until Garo Saero accepted to help them expose Kim Soohyun. Actually all the media press knows about them dating, but all said they canโt report such news for themโ
๐คขRotten korean media
#kimsoohyun#๊น์ํ
Lets say the โworst scenarioโ happens, how can he continue to live? Each of his birthday from now on will be remembered as Kim Saeronโs death day.
Kim Soo Hyun faces advertising fallout and potential 20 billion KRW (~13.7 million USD) in penalty fees amid controversy over late actress Kim Sae Ron https://t.co/GqKCocFdH7
Garosero claims he will keep releasing new photos of Kim Soohyun and Kim Saeron everyday until Kim Soohyun's statement and if he doesn't admit, 3 irrefutable photos and 1 video will be released
https://t.co/vy1fzSsWaC
Acc. to industry insider, #Nana is finalizing her casting for #UntoldScandal remake series, #Scandal, that will be released on Netflix. She is set to play #JeonDoyeon's character in the 2003 movie.
To be helmed by #Eungyo director & #SonYejin #JiChangwook #HanSunhwa are also in talks to star. Filming is slated to start around late March to early April
https://t.co/j4L0M1ogfy #KoreanUpdates RZ
#Nana reportedly cast for Netflix drama <#Scandal>, she will act as Sukbuin who is a widow has remained celibate for 9 years, the character was played by #JeonDoYeon in the same title original movie.
Filming is scheduled to begin from the end of March or early of April.
#SonYeJin #JiChangWook #HanSunHwa