Unhealed trauma can cause you to excuse, ignore or downplay mistreatment because you've survived worse. Healing helps you recognize your worth & raise your standards on how you should be treated. You're worthy of being respected & treated right in all interactions/relationships.
DO NOT judge a student’s college journey. life happens, people pass away, wonders are born, things come and go, self care is needed. not all students graduate in 4 years or at all. it’s really discouraging to ask someone why they aren’t perfectly aligned with a 4 year program.