Christ*Biblical-Justice *Empathy*Hope *Gen 50:20*Micah 6:8: The posts on this site are my own personal opinions. They are not read or approved by CityJoy.
"Research shows that we need a 5-1 ratio of positive vs negative feedback in order to get better. Parents, bosses & spouses beware!" Dr Henry Cloud
Someone who gaslights you is trying to talk you out of your experience to alleviate their shame and responsibility to an issue. It’s a tool to control and manipulate you." Dr Henry Cloud
"Gaslighting is a form of abuse, and if you are hurting, something is not right. God gave us the gifts of experiencing our feelings — pain, fear, doubt, etc., — to tell us that something is wrong and that we need to do something about it.
If you don’t believe miracles happen, my op-ed on the doctrine of Providence, complete with reference to RC Sproul and the Westminster larger catechism, is the lead in the Washington Post’s opinion section of today’s Sunday edition. 😄
And for those who fighting the paywall, perhaps this might help! (And thanks again to religion editor @matthewschmitz for commissioning!)
Many trauma survivors have lived in terrible isolation, thinking their secrets were too horrible to be told. To attend to the struggle of another by listening is to bestow honor on that person.
Mega Christian orgs are many times governed as a “religious order” like Cru! It’s a scary precedent as staff basically lose all their legal rights if they were abused. The org leadership is the judge that decides if a staff person was abused. With no ability for legal counsel
We are not called to protect our institutions, nor do we protect the God of truth by covering up sin and/or a crime. To do so is to “protect” a cancer—and cancer kills. We honor God by caring for the wounded and by dragging sin to the light and calling it by its right name.
Having seen first hand the destructive forces caused by a mega Christian org abusive retributions for exposing their wicked treatment of truth tellers is exactly what @wademullen is stating so accurately. They turn viciously on those abused and the whistleblower. Then require NDA
One of the most painful experiences of speaking truth to abusive power is watching the discussion slowly shift away from the harm itself and toward your motives, tone, credibility, and loyalty.
Eventually, the landscape is turned upside down and the truth-teller becomes the problem.
My latest article: https://t.co/lxRMgbf9Ue
From the book Uninvited: "So instead of running from the pain, we embrace it as necessary. We must feel the pain to heal the pain. If we never allow ourselves to feel it, we won’t acknowledge it’s there."
"Today is Mother's Day, so I just wanted to win for my mom." ❤️
Anthony Edwards dedicated his huge Game 4 performance to his late mother, Yvette, who died in 2015 when he was in 8th grade.