empathy and choosing to let it go or offer an iou might’ve had a better impact. imagine if it were the other way around, verbatim? hubby was chill about it every step of the way until wifey pressed. we hubs get late night booty rejected many times due to tiredness and take the uno skip card. what if he addressed his lack of feeling wanted in the moment? would’ve been a big fight at the worst time. my wife has responded with not tonight, so tired but tomorrow or next day. or next morning tell me, sorry so tired last night and it’s been crazy this week but once it’s done, i’m yours boo. it’s difficult and challenging to think in terms of who’s right or wrong in every situation. the real question to ask is were my actions helpful? if you choose to press, listen with an open mind and prepare for an answer that might not sit well. is the other person speaking facts or nah? either way, be curious and ask good questions. encourage good comms and make effort for your partner to feel comfortable to do so. last thing you want is hubs to be silent because he knows wifey will get annoyed.