My husband and I both work full-time, but somehow after we got married, all the house chores quietly became my responsibility.
Even when he helped, it felt like he was “assisting” me instead of us both taking care of our home.
One week, his mom came to visit. I was cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, basically running around the house while my husband sat on the couch watching football. I asked him if he could help vacuum and he casually said, “Later,” without even looking up.
His mother looked at both of us and said “Did you both not come back from work yesterday at the same time?”
I laughed and said, “We did.”
Then she asked my husband, very calmly, “So why is she the only one working today too?”
Silence.
That woman got up, took the remote from his hand, switched off the TV, and handed him the vacuum cleaner.
Then she said, “Marriage is not a system where one person rests while the other manages everything. If both of you are contributing financially, then both of you contribute at home too.”
She then looked at me and said “I didn’t raise my son to think his wife is his personal maid, Don’t let exhaustion become your personality because you’re trying to prove you’re a good wife.”
I swear that sentence changed something in me.
Now we split things properly . If I cook, he cleans up. If one of us is overwhelmed, the other steps in. The entitlement disappeared completely.
She still calls sometimes just to ask him, “Hope you’re not stressing my daughter?” 😭
I’m sitting in a car driving 95km/h
I’m on the German Motorway
I’m in the driver’s seat
I’m not touching the wheel
I’m not looking at the road
I am legally allowed to be on my phone right now
Level 3 autonomous driving is cool
First proper car video soon!😎
I tested 140 years of Mercedes cars, all the way from the very first car ever made, to cars from the future!
This is the most ambitious video we've ever produced, very excited for you to see it 😎
I have a pilot living in a $2,500,000 private jet and if he doesn’t leave for 100 days he keeps it, a cop/criminal in a jail and if they don’t leave for 100 days they win $500,000, and someone living in a gym until he loses 100 pounds for $500,000. Can’t wait to upload these 🥰
I read that my state, Kano, has budgeted ₦8 billion to feed people during this blessed month of Ramadan. While the state government has not provided details on the execution plan, my calculations show that ₦8 billion could potentially provide meals to more than 5 million people. At ₦1,500 per meal (a modest meal), the budgeted ₦8 billion would provide 5,333,333 meals.
While this feeding initiative is commendable, still there are important questions that, if Kano State prioritizes transparency, will provide answers with breakdowns and details. How will the meals be distributed? Will the program prioritize the most vulnerable? How transparent will the allocation of funds be?
Ramadan is a time of compassion and generosity, and I do hope the feeding initiative reaches as many people as possible.